Why You’ve Never Been In Love, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

 Drew Patrick Miller
Drew Patrick Miller


(March 21st to April 19th)

You think being in love and being independent have to be mutually exclusive things, when in reality, if you’re with the right person, your love and your independence only strengthen each other.


(April 20th to May 21st)

You’ve come close to being in love before, but you’ve backed out at the last minute out of fear that your partner wasn’t falling at the same pace as you were.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

As soon as you get past the high of the initial infatuation stage with a new partner, you close yourself off. Sometimes out of fear that they’ll reject the real you, sometimes out of fear that the relationship won’t live up to your expectations, and sometimes simply out of the fear that you don’t know what’s coming next.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

You fall easily, but because the people you’re dating often don’t make their feelings clear in a way that is understandable to you, you assume the worst and cut things off with them before they have the chance to ‘hurt you first.’


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

You’re stubborn, and have been incapable in the past of admitting, both to other people and to yourself, when someone has gotten a hold on you.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

You’re overcritical, particularly of yourself, and have squashed any opportunities of deep connections before they even began – always assuming that the other person is not really that interested in you, or that they would lose interest if they got to know you on a deeper level.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You’re fascinated with the romantic, addictive, story-centered version of love, and have been so far unable to reconcile those expectations with real, actual, everyday kinds of relationships.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

You’re convinced that a relationship has to progress at consistent top speeds if it has any hope of surviving, instead of allowing yourself to go through the organic, slow, natural experience of falling in love.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

You can be overly optimistic, assuming that the little speedbumps and roadblocks that pop up in the beginning of a relationship (and throughout it) will take care of themselves, rather than putting in the conscious effort to work on things with your partner so that you can keep trying to move forward.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

You definitely have an open and lighthearted nature to you, but you haven’t trusted anyone enough quite yet to let them break through your tougher exterior and get to know this side of you – the side that’s ready to open your heart up to love.


(January 21st to February 18th)

You think that maintaining a relaxed and detached attitude in your relationships will give you the upper hand, but all it has actually done is prevent you from having any chance of actually connecting with someone on a more intimate level.


(February 19th to March 20th)

Your beliefs about love can sometimes be too idealistic. It’s great to have standards and high hopes for the person you hopefully end up with, but when it starts to resemble a list of qualifications that your partner must have with no exceptions, it significantly decreases your odds of finding the right person, or of finding anyone at all. TC mark

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Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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