(March 21st to April 19th)
You get ‘back in the game’ in terms of literally everything that you do – you’re once again the first to show up to work and you are balancing a million different tasks before it’s even lunchtime. You’re signing up for extracurricular activities again, RSVP-ing ‘yes’ to every social invitation you receive, and focusing once again on self-improvement and ‘working on you.’
(April 20th to May 21st)
You no longer feel crushing jealousy when you think about him with someone else, you’re getting back into your favorite lively activities (gardening, music, dancing, etc), and you’ve started to appreciate the fun of casual flirting once again.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
You’re getting back into exploring your creativity – reading, writing, journaling, playing an instrument, whatever it is that brings you joy and peace. You’ve also been able to finally let go of the idea that he was your soulmate, and are more focused on your friendships and meeting new people.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Your mood swings have lessened, you’re finally taking your friends up on their invites to group dinners or girls night out, and you’re finally able to say that – as hard as you may have fallen – he was not good for you.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
You’re able to look at the relationship objectively and pinpoint why it would never have made you happy in the long run. You’ve started to put more of your energy into work, your social life, and your newest goals and resolutions – rather than wasting that energy wondering if you’d be happier if you were still with him.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
You’ve started doing what you want rather than worrying about pleasing anyone else, especially him. You’re making more room for ‘play’ in your life instead of obsessing over work, and you’ve begun reorganizing your life to give you back a sense of control and peace.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
You still hate being alone, but you’ve made an effort to surround yourself more frequently with your family and friends so that you no longer feel dependent on him whatsoever for human interaction and love.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
You’re once again volunteering for any leadership opportunities that come your way, you’re comfortable sleeping on your own without him beside you anymore, and you’re talking out your feelings with people you trust because you know it’s the best way to keep progressing on the path towards healing your heart.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
You’re spending more time outdoors again, you’re planning trips and traveling as much as you can, and you’re beginning to re-appreciate the freedom of having no ties to anyone and the beauty of being able to come and go as you please.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
You’ve stopped expecting the worst in every situation, you’ve let up a little bit on your perfectionist nature and are leaning more towards your fun and playful side, and you’re opening up to the idea that there could be someone else out there who’s a much better match for you than he ever was.
(January 21st to February 18th)
You’ve stopped running in the opposite direction every time your friends try to get you to talk through what you’re feeling, you’re spending more time on the intellectual activities that bring you joy (reading, taking classes, joining a book club, etc), and you’re no longer stuck on the idea that he was the only person you’ll ever be able to relate to on a deeper level.
(February 19th to March 20th)
You’ve stopped throwing pity parties, you no longer answer his calls and texts (whereas before, you were always overaccommodating towards him), and you’re happily bouncing around between all your different friends again – coming up with fun plans and outings that are easily taking your mind off him.