This Is Why You’re In A Dating Rut, Based On Your Zodiac Sign



(March 21st to April 19th)

Your openness and energy mean that you fall for people fast, but you lose interest even faster. Even though you’re confident and coolheaded when it comes to dating someone new, you also tend to conjure up reasons why it’s not going to work as soon as you start to sense yourself getting close to them.


(April 20th to May 21st)

You can be a very warm and loving person, but you also have trouble being flexible in relationships. If you don’t feel secure and in control 24/7, you run in the opposite direction.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

You give off a dynamic and exciting vibe, which always attracts people to you. But the reason things always end up fizzling is because you have trouble letting people in. Once you’re past the stage of getting to know someone on the surface level, you become too closed-up and distant for anyone to feel like they should stick around.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

You might be incredibly intuitive and extremely good at reading people, but they have a harder time reading you. If someone you’re dating can’t immediately figure out what it is that you want and need without your help, you end up chasing them away without giving them a second chance.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

You’re a very loyal and generous partner when you’re in a relationship, but sometimes your desire to help and give advice can lead you to act more like a parent than a significant other. As you continue looking for your match, it’s important for you to figure out when it’s helpful for you to share your opinion, and when it’s better for you to just bite your tongue and let your new potential love fight their own battles.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

You’re extremely practical and intelligent, but these traits can end up wreaking havoc on your love life if you start to develop a specific (and in-depth) list of every trait you expect to see in a significant other. It’s important to have standards for yourself and to look for someone to share your values, but if you’re expecting to find someone who meets every single requirement on your list of must-haves with no exceptions, you’re going to have zero luck.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You’re so easygoing and carefree that you lean more towards trying to get along with everyone than you do with trying to figure out what kind of person you’re looking for in a relationship. The reason that ‘the one’ seems so elusive is that you assume they’re just going to fall into your lap when in reality, love doesn’t (usually) work that way.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

You’ve got a magnetic personality and you don’t struggle with drawing people in. But you also tend to hold things against people and have trouble lettings things go. Your frustration in the dating world right now is stemming from the fact that you have a certain way you’d like things to be and you have not yet learned how to make adjustments in situations that are largely out of your control.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

Your optimistic and joyful outlook mean that you connect with people quickly and easily. But you have trouble understanding things that are from perspectives outside of your own. Your dating rut is largely due to the fact that you want things to find a way to work themselves out without you having to take the reins.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

You have a realistic sense of the world that is beneficial in a lot of areas in your life, except for the dating part. The problem with being realistic and practical is that – sometimes – it can go hand in hand with pessimism and hopelessness. You think that by keeping your expectations low, you won’t be let down. But your defeatist perspective is also keeping you from grabbing onto a lot of opportunities that would lead to meeting new people, plenty of whom could be a great match for you.


(January 21st to February 18th)

You’ve got an inventive, curious spirit and that is something that should be celebrated. But you’ve also gotten independent to the point that you have certain defense mechanisms in place when it comes to protecting your heart. By allowing yourself to date around, but never become too attached, you think you’re being a ‘free spirit’ and preventing yourself from heartache. But in the long run, all you’re really doing is avoiding the vulnerability and intimacy that is absolutely necessary when it comes to falling in love.


(February 19th to March 20th)

Your compassion and selflessness make you an ideal significant other in multiple ways, but your downfall comes from your idealistic and head-in-the-clouds kind of attitude. It’s good to have an idea of what you want in the person you end up with, but your fascination with light and breezy romances distracts you from the fact that love has to involve a lot of everyday realities too. You’ll have better luck when you learn to bring together your fairy-tale desires with modern-day situations and challenges. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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