This Is The Kind Of Person You Marry

Mary McDonald
Mary McDonald

You marry the person who makes you feel home, no matter where you are. The one who makes you feel like an airplane or a depressing hotel room or a fast food joint in the middle of nowhere is the coziest place you could be, if they’re sitting next to you.

You marry the person who makes your problems bearable, even if they can’t solve them. The one who looks you in the eye during a tough time and says, without even saying it, You’re going to be okay. I know you can do this. You know you can do this. The one who knows you are fully capable of driving through your own life, but who is always willing to take the wheel for an hour or two when your eyelids grow heavy and your soul just needs a little rest.

You marry the person who makes you love how very human you are. The one who laughs when you burp unexpectedly, who thinks you’re at your most beautiful in the morning. The one who understands when you’re lashing out from tiredness or hunger and waits patiently for you to sheepishly own up to it. The one who says “I like it” when you find your first gray hair, who watches you discover the first signs of aging on your face and then points to their own laugh lines, reassuring you that you’ll develop the rest of them together.

You marry the person who only adds to who you are, rather than taking away from it. The person who gives you even more room to solidify your own independence, while still making you feel strengthened from being part of the greater whole that is the two of you.

You marry the person who makes you feel seen. The one who looks at you in a way that no one else has ever looked at you. The one you can trust to pick up on the things you’re feeling, even when you don’t have the energy or the ability to put them into words.

You marry the person who brings you outside of yourself, who opens your eyes to both the things happening far away and the things happening right in front of your face – the things you couldn’t or didn’t want to face before. You marry the person whose words reassure you more than anyone else’s and the person who will just as readily tell you the things that no one else is brave enough to tell you.

You marry the person who is simultaneously capable of making your world more dazzling and yet more real than it has ever been with anyone else. 

You marry the person whose voice brings you warmth, whose beating heart brings you peace, whose hands bring you into a world in which you are never alone.

And most of all, you marry the person who’s willing to change with you. Every single day. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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