1. “You’ve become a shell of yourself since you started dating him and if you stay with him that’s going to be your life.”

–Amy, 27

2. “How can you not see that if he’s already lied to you once he’s just gonna keep lying to you?”

–Frances, 25

3. “You’ve cried more since you started dating him than you have in the last five years. That’s not normal.”

–Lace, 24

4. “There’s no way to be absolutely sure about him, but there should be something in your gut that gives you some sort of inclination. And if you don’t have that, I’d walk away, now.”

–Claire, 28

5. “He should make you feel even more sure about yourself and all he’s done is make you feel more insecure. That’s not right.”

–Trina, 27 

6. “Take a break from him, give yourself some space. If you really think in a few months from now that you made a mistake, he’ll still be there. If he’s not, he wasn’t right for you anyway.”

–Krystin, 26

7. “Maybe now it doesn’t feel like settling for him, but in like 10 years when everything’s a lot more complicated with kids and bills and stuff, it’s gonna feel a lot more like settling if you’re not with the right partner. And I really don’t think he’s that guy.”

–Candyce, 25

8. “Smiling and laughing should be a lot easier and a lot more natural than it seems to be between you two.”

–Kate, 23

9. “Not a single one of your family members or friends has a good vibe about him. Doesn’t that tell you something?”

–Alyssa, 30

10. “It’s like he’s sucking all of this energy and joy out of you, and a partner that you love should be adding that to your life, not taking it away.”

–Lynn, 28

11. “Doubts and worries are normal and they happen in every couple, but yours only seem to be multiplying with no sign of stopping. Imagine how many more of those you’ll have even in a month or two from now.”

–Carey, 24

12. “It sounds like you apologize to him every time you need to talk about something emotional or vulnerable. Apologizing for having feelings sounds like a pretty bad sign to me.”

–Tara, 27

13. “If he’s not the first person you think of when you’re having a really hard day and need to talk to someone, I don’t know what you’re doing with him.”

–Lenny, 28

14. “I don’t trust him. Dad doesn’t trust him, Mom doesn’t trust him. And you don’t trust him. Run.”

–Hannah, 26

15. “Please, for the sake of everyone who wants you to be happy, don’t be with him.”

–Dana, 29

16. “You are a light to everybody around you, except when you’re with him. You’re a completely different person with him, and not in a good way. It’s like he takes your whole spark away. And it makes [your friends] all really sad. And frustrated. You’re so much better without him.”

–Madyson, 25