Why Being Single Is Sometimes The Hardest Thing A Girl Can Face

Franca Gimenez
Franca Gimenez

My darlings, I wish that today I could give you some sassy, empowering, inspiring piece about being single. If I could, I would tell you that you’re amazing on your own and you don’t need a man in your life. I would go on and on about how single life is the best life. Twisting my words into a song that would even make taken girls singing along.

Oh, how I wish I could give you the words you need to hear. I’m sorry, for I can’t find the strength to do so, because today, I don’t believe any of them.

Today, all I can give you is:

Some days, being single is hard.

Sorry ladies, I can see myself turning into a hypocrite as I type. But it’s true, today-and well some other days- being single fucking sucks.

Tonight, sleeping in my bed alone seems like the harshest thing in the world. My queen size bed has turned into a death sentence. I’m dreading the feeling of the cold sheets, as they take me in, holding me throughout the night.

But you know what? I think it’s perfectly normal -and healthy- to have days like this. Being single isn’t all fun and games.

It’s OK to admit to this. It’s OK to feel like this.

It’s OK to want to be in a relationship after being single for so long. There is nothing wrong with that. We’re all sensitive beings, trying to get by in this crazy, unpredictable life. It’s natural to want someone to stand by your side throughout it all. It’s human nature to crave physical and emotional intimacy.

On a good day, I absolutely love the single life. I get to do whatever the hell I want, without having to worry about anyone else.

Being single gives me the opportunity to be selfish. This may be one of the only times in my life when I get this chance. Soon enough, I will have a spouse and kids, other humans whom are completely reliant on me.

Contrary to socially belief, being single throughout our youth is a blessing, not a curse. And that’s what I need to keep reminding myself on days like today. This solo time of my life forces me to focus on myself, focus on my own wants and needs. I have been given the rare opportunity to create a life based upon only my aspirations. All with the hope that one-day, someone will come join me on the adventure.

I’m no longer waiting around for someone to come and complete my life. No man is going to show up and make me whole: I’m perfectly capable on my own.

I love that I have gotten to this point in life. The point where I realize that I don’t need a man, I want one. I don’t need someone fill a void in my life. I want someone to be standing by my side throughout it all.

There is only so much weight we, as single women, can carry around on our own. Sometimes we need a man to help us carry the load. Needing someone there to be by our side doesn’t make us weak, it just proves that we’ve been strong for too long.

Friends and family are an important and solid support system, especially as a single girl. They help pick us up every time we fall, trying to be there whenever we need their encouragement and guidance. At the end of the day, they will never be able to entirely fill the role of a boyfriend or significant other.

It’s perfectly OK to want someone to lean on. It’s OK to rely on other individuals. Because we are all human, just doing the best that we can.

There are going to be days when we fully enjoy our singleness. We march around, dancing to the sound of our independence and strength. We embrace the badass bitches that we are, because “We don’t need a man!” We laugh at those in relationships, because we can’t even imagine what it’s like being “stuck” in one.

Then, there will be days like today. Days we wake up alone, and return to sleep the same way. The days where it seems like everyone else is in a relationship, and we are just one-lone-single girl. Days where we try and fake that smile, trying to convince everyone- and ourselves- that we are happy being single. When in actuality, we are actual dying from jealously and loneliness inside.

It’s OK to not be in love with the single life every day.

It’s normal to have days where it slowly kills you inside. There is nothing wrong with craving the companionship of a significant other. Loneliness is a real emotion, and sadly, many of us feel the effects from day to day.

Most importantly, it’s perfectly acceptable to admit all of this.

Possibly tomorrow, I can give you the inspiring single girl article that all you lovely ladies deserve. Maybe then, I can join you on embracing and enjoying this solo ride.

But for now, it’s time to hit the sheets- for they will take me as their prisoner for the night. TC mark

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