Here’s What Possibility Every Myers-Briggs Type Looks Forward To When It Comes To Love


The possibility of a collaborator.

Most people treat the INTP like a professor, like someone to observe and listen when they talk about things. While this suits INTPs much of the time, romantically, INTPs are looking for someone to share things with, to exchange ideaswith, not just a one-sided lecture.


The possibility of someone new.

ENFPs love the exciting beginning of a relationship, with all the ups and downs that accompany this new start. This isn’t to say that they are incapable of being in a steady relationship-merely that those initial feelings are some of an ENFP’s favorite.


The possibility of understanding.

ISFPs march to the beat of their own drum, and while this suits them most of the time, there are times when they wish for someone to really get them. Finding someone who was not only interested in the things they love but also understood and appreciated their passions would be like hitting the jackpot for the ISFP.


The possibility of a laugh.

While people often see the ESTJ as a take-charge, commanding personality, this type actually likes having their world turned upside down (if only so they can right it once more). Many ESTJs have hidden senses of humor, even if they don’t often show it, and a sense of humor is often what draws them to other people.


The possibility of standing out.

ESFJs love being both different as well as the center of attention. This extends into what excites them about a potential new partner, with the “socialness” of a new partner being key in judged suitability. ESFJs are so gregarious they simply wouldn’t appreciate a partner they didn’t feel proud of.


The possibility of knowledge.

INFJs love to learn, especially about their loved ones as they feel that this breeds true connection (something that is very important to INFJs). A partner that clams up about personal topics would probably not be seen as a potential partner for very long in the eyes of the INFJ.


The possibility of growth.

ENTPs often feel that they are on a never-ending journey to be “good enough” and this often translates into a disinterest in people they feel have it “all figured out”. This is not to say that they are searching for someone with huge issues, as their desire for development not about fixing someone else; rather, it’s about growing together.


The possibility of a future.

This should come as no surprise to anyone who knows an ISTJ, they are future-focused in every aspect of their life, potential partnerships included. Whether they look to see themselves getting married, having children, or growing old with someone, they will likely abandon any relationship with a large likelihood of failure.


The possibility of excitement.

ESFPs are all about having a good time, and they are not about to let a partner get in the way. This is not to say that they are unfaithful partners, rather that they will not tolerate a lot of restrictions or boredom. They look for someone who promises the opposite of these traits, someone who seems to offer both companionship as well as a party.


The possibility of the end of dating.

While ISTPs can fear commitment, it doesn’t mean they don’t hate dating, indeed it can be one of an ISTPs least favorite parts of life, seeing the process as dull and agitating. They look forward to the promise of moving on to the next stage, given that their partner allows them plenty of breathing room.


The possibility of fun.

ESFPs love to have a vibrant social life, and any potential partner should not only be a willing participant but should also provide an additional circle of friends to add to their group. This is mainly because ESFPs want to feel that a romantic relationship adds to their life, rather than secreting them away from it.


The possibility of wildness.

INTJs are extremely controlled in everything they do, and while some might think this level of control extends to their romantic relationships, this isn’t typically the case. Indeed, INTJs often love the way their partners shun social morays in favor of being true to themselves, and a sense of the unconventional is often what first attracts the INTJ.


The possibility of happiness.

This is not to paint ISFJs as essentially unhappy, indeed this type is usually very positive, rather than negative people tire the ISFJ out very quickly. Because of this, they are intrigued by people that seem to radiate a sense of peaceful happiness, it promises them a future in which they can focus on more than fixing someone else (a pitfall that ISFJs are often afraid of).


The possibility of direction.

INFPs are dreamers and drifters, and most of the time this suits them. However, many INFPs have an underlying sense of stress that comes from being unsure of how to really get the things that they truly want. This often translates into a desire for a partner with a more take-charge attitude.


The possibility of a companion.

ENTJs are independent, but this doesn’t mean that they are not looking for someone that they can trust to be there 100% when the ENTJ needs them. This is not to say that they are not looking for something exciting, merely that the base of what they are looking for is someone who will “walk beside them”.


The possibility of progress.

ENFJs look for partners that can provide something that the ENFJs cannot provide themselves. This is not to paint them as harsh realists, but rather showcasing how achieving they typically are. They do not want a partner that feels insignificant or insecure in light of their accomplishments and as such will look for partners who can at least match them. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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