Don’t Let Your Failed Relationships Define You

Caleb Ekeroth
Caleb Ekeroth

I’ve spent long, cold, sad months wallowing in my own misery, the misery that he put me in, the one that I never asked for, and most certainly, the one I didn’t deserve.

There is no way around break-ups, aside from eating gallons on gallons of cookie dough and triple chocolate fudge ice cream or watching movies such as Love, Rosie to give us hope that maybe one day the love of our lives will come back because “it’s meant to be”. Well here comes the sad truth. In the months that I’ve been crying and asking the universe what I could have possibly done wrong to deserve this, I realize that I’m wasting my time. So I say this with utmost urgency; to everybody who is still not over their past relationships; repeat after me, you are wasting your time.

Life inevitably stops for no one at all costs, it will keep going when you’re having the worst day of your life.

And it will for surely keep ticking through your good days. There are so many things out there to try and indulge ourselves into instead of drowning our thoughts with what ifs and could have beens because what’s done is done and all we can really do is be thankful for what was, regardless if it was great or not.

Relationships are allowed to fail, we all know that but we never really prepare for the day when it finally crumbles down to the point of no return.

We hang on oh so tightly to the idea that the person standing in front of us is who we’ll end up with, that the person whose hand you’re still clasping onto is the one that was made for you, but let me remind you dear reader that there are over 10 billion people on this planet and we are bound to meet someone who can launch us to an abyss of feelings that we’ve never felt before.

There is someone out there who will make us believe in the goodness of loving someone with no restraints, no restrictions and most importantly, no hesitation.

Don’t let failed relationships make you hard and heartless; the most beautiful people that have walked this Earth are those who seek love even after being beaten to the ground.

Be gentle, be lovely and have faith that the universe has something amazing in store for you.

And until it’s ready to show itself to you, keep growing and believe that there are hundreds, if not thousands of things you can be thankful for.

I’m saying it’s finally time to let go and love yourself first. Be the person that you’ve always wanted to be, try everything that you think can help you grow as a better person and love every minute of it. So, unclasp those fingers, turn around and walk away and smile for what has happened and look forward to all that’s to come. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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