I’m an introvert. I love reading books about history and I love spending time alone, just chilling on the couch, with my cat. Sometimes I am alone, but I am not lonely. I do have friends, quite many, in fact, and I do like to hang out with them downtown.
However, I am pretty discreet and mostly contained, so everyone tells me I should be dating an extrovert. They say I should find someone outspoken, who can be the exact opposite of who I am. In my early 20s I was a firm believer in this and I was always dating exuberant men, who overwhelmed me each time we were together. Then I had the revelation of my life and I fell for an introvert.
This is when I understood that amazing things happen when two introverts start dating.
1. Our first date is not awkward.
Well, not more awkward than all first dates. When two introverts meet, they know how strange the other person is feeling, so they respect this and try to act as normal as possible. This usually means talking about things only introverts understand, like not knowing what to say on a first date. After the first couple of minutes, you gradually start to feel comfortable with each other. This reminds me of the next point…
2. We value words more than other people.
Introverts are perfectly able to sit in silence and communicate. We talk little, but when we do talk, the words we say value a lot more for us. When you are dating an introvert you know that each word he is saying is meant to be there in your discussion. We talk less, but we listen more, so our relationships are deeper. When we do start talking, we can chat for hours on end, because we have many topics to talk about. Thanks to being such good listeners.
3. You don’t have to pretend to be outgoing.
Oh, yes! When you start dating an introvert you don’t have to pretend that you are outgoing, just to avoid being labeled as a hater. However, when two introverts fall for each other, they won’t start posting their relationship online anytime soon. We might even hide our relationship from our friends. This is always beneficial, from my experience, because we don’t have to put up with the pressure of the society. This allows the relationship to evolve naturally, something very special nowadays.
4. Our relationship is slow…
And steady! Because introverts like to watch and value words more than other people, their relationships are deeper and more meaningful. Also, we don’t rush into things, relationships included, so our relationships evolve slow and steady. But this comes with a huge advantage: when you are taking your time to know your partner better, you can’t go wrong when you finally decide to take it to the net level.
5. Intimacy is amazing.
If you take your time to know your partner and understand him, when the moment comes, it will be truly special. There are many myths that say introverts are not interested in sex or avoid touching people, but they are all myths! We do like sexy time, but we are a lot more careful with whom we reach that moment. And when it comes, it’s a lot more valuable. When introverts are in intimacy, there are sparkles and bubbles! There is passion and there is love!