No Matter What Happens In Life, You Have To Just Keep Moving Forward

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A particularly fun part of pain is the ability that it has to stop us dead in our tracks.

Embarrassment freezes us. Rejection discourages us. Disappointment makes us check out of the game and re-evaluate all of the rules.

We perceive the arrival of problems as a reason to cease and desist what we’re doing. We see them as a sign to stop moving.

But perhaps we’re paying ourselves a grave disservice in doing so.

Because the problem often isn’t that our struggles trip us up and prevent us from moving forward. The problem is that we choose to stay stuck on problems, to agonize over them, to obsess and analyze and dissect them. We decide that if we can get down to the root of our recurring challenges, we can defeat them once and for all.

But sometimes the analysis isn’t what helps us.

Sometimes the analysis is just a feeble excuse to stay stuck in the center of our issues, because it’s easier to dissect them than it is to move on.

Here’s the thing:

Pain can be absolutely paralyzing.

When you feel an intense flood of embarrassment, it makes you want to hide out from the world. When you feel the sharp sting of rejection, it makes you want to turn inward and analyze everything that could possibly be wrong with you, so that you don’t keep carrying flaws forward. And when you’re in pain, all you want to do is make the entire world stop turning until you have the time and the stamina to catch up with it.

But that’s the unfortunate thing about life: It doesn’t stop moving.

It goes on. And we have to too, if we want to do ourselves any favors.

Because the truth is, nine times out of ten, your strike-out was probably a matter of bad luck.

You fell in love with someone who wasn’t ready for a relationship. You applied for a job that didn’t need your precise set of skills. You got all up in your head about an event or an opportunity or a possibility and it didn’t pan out because, well, it just didn’t.

Because that’s life. The stars aren’t always aligned.

But the solution to this problem is not to analyze all of the ways in which you’re not good enough. The solution is to get back up and prove to yourself that you are.

And that means putting yourself back out there. It means taking the risks that you are most afraid to take. It means looking at your life in a series of averages, rather than a series of individual hits and misses, and realizing that for every nine times you strike out, you hit it out of the park at least once.

And that one hit is worth all the strike-outs in the world.

But you’re never going to realize that if you allow your failures to vanquish you.

You have to let your failures be events – lined up along the road of your life – rather than identities that you adopt. Because events you can simply move past.

Embarrassment? Just keep going.

Pain? Just keep going.

Rejection? Just keep going.

There will be peaks and valleys and long, endless stretches of sunshine to travel down on the road ahead. And any dirt that is sticking to your shoes will fall off along the way.

But it won’t if you keep standing in the mud puddle, theorizing about how to make it disappear.

Which is exactly what you’re doing when you allow yourself to get caught in analysis – instead of picking up your feet and moving on. TC mark

This is me letting you go

If there’s one thing we all need to stop doing, it’s waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives. Just be the person you’ve been waiting for.

At the end of the day, you have two choices in love – one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away.

We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.

“Everyone could use a book like this at some point in their life.” – Heather

Let go now

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