18 ENTPs Explain Exactly How To Win Over Their Type

1. “I’m of the opinion that you should never date someone that you don’t feel is on par with you intellectually. Ask questions that speak to a person’s mind – if I leave our conversation having learned something new, you’ll get my number.”

2. “Stop the roller coaster ride that are my thoughts. Let me be mindless for just a second, whether it’s through chocolate or a good fuck.”

3. “Be down for anything. I will try and take you on crazy adventures, and I need to know you aren’t going to be too timid to join me. Also be able to hold your own in an argument. It isn’t personal if I disagree with you, I am just trying to test if you are able to deal with my argumentative nature on a daily basis. Additionally, I love surprises, teasing, and kinky stuff. You basically just need to stand out in something – be super smart, super nice, super hip, super down to earth, just something that makes me notice you as an individual.”

4. “Don’t be cheesy, have an opinion, and don’t be afraid to be brutally honest.”

5. “Push our buttons. Out smart us. Make us dream big. Surprise us (it’s difficult–we’re one step ahead of you. And humble, did I mention we’re humble?)”

6. “I don’t look for an audience for my ridiculousness/cleverness/pretentiousness/craziness. I look for costars, people who bring something exciting to the adventure (there’s always an adventure). Don’t be boring, don’t be an idiot, don’t just put up with me, because I won’t just put up with you. Engage me, challenge me, excite me – it’s what I’ll do to you.”

7. “You need to be loyal, honest and able to deal with my dry sense of humour.”

8. “Be optimistic, engaging, come up with ideas sometimes, have fun, friends first or make it clear it’s a date, don’t be too clingy, tell me what you are thinking, be playful, don’t be arrogant, be aware that I can be very extroverted but will need personal space sometimes. I also like massages.”

9. “Be as curious as I am about life. Always seek adventure. Be dope.”

10. “Intrigue me! I want you to be less traditional with me. We may analyze things a ton at first and need practicality over emotion, but we get more vulnerable as time goes on and start to enjoy romance more.”

11. “Be sarcastic and chill.”

12. “Don’t take my debates personally! Actually, don’t take anything I say personally. Grow with me. Criticize me. Give me space for infinite exploration.”

13. “I want to see your eyes light up as you eat up new ideas and turn them into brilliant fantasies of a collaborative feat. Just you and I, thriving on an endless train of inspiration- ensuring that there’s never, ever, ever a dull
moment.”

14. “Keep me interested by presenting new ideas about how to move things forward when we are stuck in mud.”

15. “Be willing to engage mentally- that may seem like arguing to you, but it’s really feeding my interest, because I need a friend (or “friend”) who will work through all angles of an idea or construct.”

16. “You win me over by having really good conversations with me, rather than by just doing stuff together. And you have to make me laugh – but also give me a chance to make you laugh.”

17. “Start off telling me how exciting I am and how that entices you. As you get to know me better you can get cuter with it (saying I’m special to you, that you feel comfortable with me, etc.) ENTPs like to know we’re special, but we don’t always go for romance right off the bat. Being told I’m exciting shows your interest without getting too clingy too fast.”

18. “Be a paradoxical combination of mystery and honesty.”

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