Here’s Which Bratty Behavior Each Myers-Briggs Personality Type Needs To Check Themselves For

No matter how old we get, there are certain behaviors we’re all inclined towards that can only be described as bratty. These attitudes usually surface during times of stress or upset and we often have to make the conscious decision to inhibit them. Luckily, doing so is possible – so long as we remember to check ourselves for these bratty behaviors from time to time and shut them down before they get the chance to fully manifest.


ENFP: Disappearing on people.

ENFPs have a lot of feelings but a short attention span – which means their feelings for other people tend to change quickly. Unhealthy ENFPs have the tendency to keep their options open at the expense of other people – they may string friends or love interests along while they consider their many options for romance or the future in general. And as soon as something new catches their eye, they are at risk of disappearing without warning and leaving a string of confused loved ones in their wake.

ENTP: Taking advantage of people.

ENTPs have a knack for quickly picking up on just what makes people tick. And in the unhealthy or underdeveloped ENTP, that knack can take a quick turn for the manipulative. This type knows exactly how to push peoples buttons to get what they want out of them – and they often aren’t concerned with how the situation plays out for the person they’re taking advantage of. This type needs to learn to reign in their manipulative tendencies before their bad behavior blows up in their face.

INTJ: Assuming they have nothing to learn from others.

INTJs are incredibly knowledgeable – and they know it. Unhealthy versions of this type are prone to narcissistic tendencies, and may altogether refuse to listen to what anyone around them has to say – assuming themselves to be the only competent individual around. This type needs to remember that there are different forms of intelligence and they don’t possess them all. Chances are, they have a great deal to learn from those around them – even those they initially deem incompetent.

ISFJ: Unwarranted passive-aggressiveness.

ISFJs like to make others happy – and for that reason, they often feel uncomfortable expressing their own needs. Unhealthy ISFJs may harbor grudges against friends or acquaintances for years – feeling bitter about their needs going unmet, despite the fact that they never explicitly voiced them. This type needs to remember that their loved ones are not mind readers and that their passive-aggressiveness isn’t warranted until they’ve actually raised their concerns.

ESFJ: Gossiping.

ESFJs are interested in what people are doing. And unhealthy ESFJs are interested in judging what people are doing. No matter how juicy a particular piece of gossip may be, ESFJs have to learn when it’s simply time to bite their tongues. Many unhealthy ESFJs develop reputations for being warm in person but judgmental behind their friends’ backs – and that’s a reputation nobody wants.

ENFJ: Interfering with people’s personal lives.

ENFJs want nothing more than to help their friends make the choices that are best for them. And unhealthy ENFJs often do so by manipulating their friends to make the choice they believe to be right – regardless of what their friend wants. ENFJs need to remember that as emotionally intelligent as they may be, they need to let others make their own decisions. Getting caught meddling puts them at risk of losing the trust of their loved ones and making the entire situation worse than ever.

ESTJ: Lecturing others.

If ESTJs are anything, it’s self-assured. This type is confident in their worldview and tends to genuinely believe that they know what’s best for those around them – but that isn’t always the case. Unhealthy ESTJs lack the ability to recognize that their worldview doesn’t always translate for others – and that they have to be tolerant of other people’s choices, regardless of how illogical they may seem to them.

INFP: Holding others to unrealistic expectations.

INFPs almost always see the best in people. And unhealthy INFPs invent the best in people. This wildly imaginative type is occasionally guilty of embellishing someone in their imagination to the point where they become upset with the real-life version of said person for not living up to their imaginary ideal. This type needs to keep in mind that their fantasies don’t always match up to reality – and that sometimes they’re expectations for others can be a wee bit unrealistic.

INTP: Neglecting loved ones.

INTPs live predominantly inside their own minds. This type requires less social stimulation than almost any other type, and an unhealthy INTP may cope by shutting out other people altogether. INTPs need to ensure that during times of trouble, they aren’t failing to appreciate the people who stick by them. Their loved ones may feel neglected by their reclusiveness, interpreting it as a lack of investment in the relationship.

ENTJ: Coercing others into submission.

ENTJs are powerhouses. They are masters of pinpointing the most efficient way of getting things done – and occasionally, those ways of getting things done require the participation of other people. While a healthy ENTJ maintains and respects others’ boundaries, an unhealthy one may cash in on their manipulative tendencies and coerce others into acting in a way that serves them. This type tends to believe that the ends justify the means – which is effective in the best of times but morally questionable in the worst of times.

ESTP: Playing people to get what they want.

ESTPs are smooth talkers and charmers. They can talk their way in or out of anything and an unhealthy ESTP may take advantage of this ability. This type needs to remember that they’re accountable for everything they say while their charm is turned on – and that if they make a promise in order to get something they want, they’re still accountable for delivering on it.

ESFP: Chasing the spotlight at all costs.

ESFPs love to be the center of attention. This type thrives on entertaining others – and there’s nothing wrong with that! But an unhealthy ESFP is at risk of neglecting loyal friends and loved ones every time an opportunity for attention arises. They may flake on plans, drop commitments and even fail to be there for friends in times of need if they perceive a greater opportunity for validation. This type needs to remember that attention is fleeting but long-lasting relationships are not.

ISFP: Avoiding necessary confrontation.

Healthy ISFPs know that as much as they dislike confrontation, it’s occasionally necessary to iron out conflicts that arise within a relationship. Unhealthy ISFPs, on the other hand, would rather throw out the entire relationship than let someone know that something they did offended them. ISFPs need to keep in mind that sometimes ironing out conflicts is a necessary evil – and that avoiding confrontation often only aggravates a situation.

ISTP: Unwarranted grouchiness.

ISTPs need a lot of time to process things internally. And if that time gets interrupted, unhealthy ISTPs have the tendency to respond grouchily towards whoever interrupted their train of thought – even if they did so entirely innocently. This type needs to remember that it wouldn’t kill them to fake social pleasantries from time to time, even if they’re not really in the mood.

ISTJ: Assuming moral superiority.

ISTJs are incredibly principled individuals – they take their duties and commitments incredibly seriously and appreciate when others do as well. In unhealthy ISTJs, however, this sense of duty can manifest as a moral superiority complex – the ISTJ may decide that others are morally corrupt and fail to understand that their own system of morality differs from those of others. This type needs to keep in mind that their own version of right and wrong is the only one they have control over!

INFJ: Pretentiousness.

INFJs are a generally misunderstood personality type – they make up less than 1% of the population and aren’t easy to get to know well. And unhealthy INFJs are thoroughly pleased with being misunderstood. They may use their uncommon nature as a means of belittling others for lacking their depth or analytical abilities, or as an excuse for looking down on the more common types. INFJs need to remember that rare is not synonymous with superior, and that every type is fundamentally misunderstood in some way. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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