Subtle Ways To Play The Smartest Of Mind Games On Your Guy

Carly Rae Hobbins

To all my ladies out there, the world owes those who are not naive. Enough of all the mourning. Too much drama is exhausting. Get up, wear your stilettos and give those boys a taste of their own medicine. Here are some tips cited from few of your favorite authors of best-selling novels on how to change the game.

Be confident.

Confidence is sexy, but on a limited basis. Try not exceed the certain level. Make use of your charm and flaunt it to stand out among the rest. Tickle his ego, stab him later. Pun intended. Practice this by keeping the communication going. Meaning, ask more and share a little less. Please “do not disclose disorienting details too soon” says Ellen Kreidman, author of Light His Fire. Unless, you want him to think of you as a ‘Communal Juliet’ with an open book available for everyone. “Early-stage TMI’s is a major turn-off for most males.”

Dress to cop a feel.

Take note, less is more. Don’t offer too much you’d know he could perfectly handle. “Men are hunters, and they want to discover for themselves what makes you tick” says Helen Fisher, author of The First Sex. Give him the impression of wanting to watch you closely and keep you inside his game. Let the dopamine level in his brain fuel up out of mad curiosity. Alas for him, it’s not what you are dressed for. Score.

Conceive and conceal.

Play it cool and keep it low key. Let it flow smoothly. If you say something, create it with a huge impact. “When you reveal something that’s truly weighty, he’ll feel like he’s earned your trust.” — Kreidman. Then keep it going. Ride on his jokes or flirt with him over the phone. Appreciate every sweet gestures as if you’ve never encountered that before.

Play hard to get.

Inflict him with anticipation. “Allow him to simmer wondering what you’re doing” writes Sherry Argov, author of Why Men Love Bitches. Keep him intrigued. Wait and don’t initiate the second date. Don’t do what you are expected to do. Give him a week or two to reel or count one to four before you return his call. A little tap on the back and you’re good to go. Let him chase you for saying no.


Manipulate his overrated genre. Sherry Argov, author of Why Men Love Bitches writes, “Reason out a super insane schedule but never be apologetic of your AWOL. Don’t let him feel like he has a guaranteed spot on your social calendar neither on any of your future plans.” Another thing, never assume. If you don’t want to spoil the fun and turn down the game, don’t get caught up too much on his ill-scented flowery words. Instead, let his words trip down on its own wickedness. The trick? when he gives you butterflies, give him bees and let them sting.

Know when to paint the code red.

You’re a woman who can stand on your own. “Be an independent thinker and ignore any attempts that will limit your way.” Never let a guy buy you a drink so you don’t have to owe him anything.” You don’t have to close a deal. The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be.” Look for your way out when he’s trying to get into your way. Refuse. Remember the platform is yours, take control. Be your own epitome of the saying “Men control the world, but women control the men.”

Stage it neat.

Remember to detach yourself from your target zone. Your goal is not to be like any other woman in his life before you. Foresee a situation where you get to see him melt like butter on hot toast by throwing him just enough shades of pretentious casting. Act as if you have no idea of what you’re doing. “Live by your own rules. Move to your own rhythm.”  Give him the right amount of attention he needs without putting a hint of grunge in it. Intended or not.

Set the competition.

Pretend and show interest on few of his acquaintances without making it too obvious. Subtle is good. This will give him a punch in his ego. Make him battle for a competition and let him do his white-knight moves just for you not to get away out of his sight. Reap your rewards by once again flexing your independence unattached from his side.

Be authentic.

Suit up, maintaining your own life acts like claustrophobia kryptonite. “When you show that you like him but your world doesn’t revolve around him, it says you’re confident and self-reliant — two very sexy traits to a guy,” says Argov. Boys unlike men, they connect the dots in reference to their exes. So don’t be anything like them. Stand your ground and let him reach out to you. The catch? He’ll find himself out of his zone just to get close to you.

Learn the unspoken language.

By that, I mean the body language. Well, this is crucial, but that’s the hype of modern dating. So, catch up. “A little desperation in a guy actually builds a character.” Tease but don’t overdo it. Don’t get too close to a seriously rookie move. Keep a distance and let him come to you. “Be the predator of any situation” writes Kiersten White, author of Mind Games. Boys, they dig for thrill. Don’t spoil it by giving the him an effortless deal. ”

Keep it classy.

I repeat, keep it classy. Be a woman with attitude and grace. Changing the game doesn’t require you to be slutty. This was made for you to maneuver the process. Stick to your purpose and be careful on casting your judgements. “Separate the guys who just wants you on a whim from the men who’ll put in an extra effort.” So, hold this advantage along with responsibility.

Perhaps this is it. This is how you jumpstart your way out of his twisted games. Good luck, ladies! Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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