Harris O'Malley

Harris O’Malley is a writer and dating coach who provides geek dating advice at his blog Paging Dr. NerdLove and at Kotaku.com He is also a regular guest at One Of Us. He can be found dispensing snark and advice on Facebook and on Twitter at @DrNerdLove.

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Harris O'Malley

The Fear Of Being “Invisible”

When I wrote about the Hollaback Project’s street harassment video, the comments section was deluged with men insisting that they’d love to be harassed like that. I was willing to disregard these complaints – after all, most men who talk about how…

5 Conversations That Will Save Your Relationship

‏How well do you know your partner? Oh sure, you’re reasonably sure that she’s not secretly a Deep One or an intelligent tapeworm wearing that body like a flesh-suit… but how well do you sync on the make-or-break issues?

How Porn Is Different From Sex In The Real World

Culturally (western culture in particular), we’re brought up to think of sex as something that’s supposed to be private and intimate, strictly between two people — preferably with a strong emotional connection. In practice… well, not so much.

What Your Secret Sexual Desires Say About You

Accepting that you have these desires doesn’t make you sinful or wrong; it empowers you. And by empowering yourself, you’re better able to address those desires, even the dark, disturbing ones, in ways that are safe, sane, and consensual.