10 Uncomfortable Signs You’re An Extroverted Introvert

Michael Discenza

We all know about introverts and extroverts – but what about extroverted introverts? Here are ten signs that you might be one.

1. You purposefully schedule alone time after socializing.

You have to go to brunch for your best friend’s birthday and you’re looking forward to it, but you also know that you’re going to need some alone time to recharge afterwards.

2. You’re comfortable talking to people but most of the time, you’d rather not.

If you have to, you’re great at communicating with others but you mostly choose situations where you don’t have to.

3. You’re really fun and social – for a set amount of time.

For extroverted introverts, it’s almost like you have a timer for how long you can be social. You’re out with your friends and having a great time, but eventually, the timer goes off and you know you need to retreat to a quiet place to kick it alone for awhile. It’s not that you don’t like being around other people but it’s draining to you. You need some time alone to rejuvenate.

4. People think you’re an extrovert.

You’re social and fun and charming and you can make small talk with the best of them. You have a lot of friends who you love spending time with. You go out and try new things. What people don’t realize is that you’re not an extrovert but an extroverted introvert who can only be extroverted for a certain amount of time.

5. You have to psyche yourself up for social interactions – even when you know you’ll enjoy them.

Even when you know you’re going to have fun with your friends, you have to psyche yourself up a little to be around other people.

6, You like being alone – in doses.

After a week of school and work, you’re pumped to spend your Friday night laying in bed watching Netflix but on Saturday, you’re ready to be around other people again.

7. You like when people pay attention to you – but only when you’re at your best.

You don’t mind being the center of attention on days where you’re wearing your favorite dress or did your hair. You like going out for your birthday, but you’re not that person to announce it to everyone you see.

8. You love going to parties but you also make sure you have an escape route.

You’re that person who volunteers to drive to the party so that you can leave whenever you want. You want to go but you also know you’ll probably leave sooner than anyone else in your friend group.

9. You make plans when you’re feeling extroverted but then the time comes and you want to cancel so bad.

You made a plan for dinner with an old college friend when you were feeling extroverted but now the time has come and all you want to do is stay home and be by yourself. Would it be really rude to cancel 10 minutes before?

10. You can hold up your end of the conversation and you’re a great listener.

Being an extroverted introvert means you inhabit the best of both worlds – you’re an awesome conversationalist and you’re an adept listener. Jackpot! Thought Catalog Logo Mark

About the author

Fortesa Latifi

Fortesa Latifi is a 24-year-old writer and graduate student.

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