I have noticed how I am not as “girly” as other girls. There are things that girls are known for doing that are still somewhat foreign to me. I really hope there are some girls out there that can relate to these “girly girl” things that not all girls do. Here are some things that “not so girly girls” have to deal with.

1. Hair

The only hair styles I know how to do are, a bun, ponytail, a braid, and leaving my hair down. I don’t know how to use a curling iron. I have tried, but my hair is not for curling. I can only straighten my hair. Apparently there are other hairstyles out there that any girl can do, just not me. I have attempted and have failed many times. The best hairstyle I can do, is when I wake up in the morning with naturally messy hair, which happens to look nice.

2. Make up

The infinite amount of make-up girls have is crazy! I have seen those YouTube make-up tutorials with girls having their own make-up rooms??? I can fit all my make-up in 2 small make-up bags. I have been using one eye shadow palate for 5 years. I have not used all the colors. I don’t use brushes. I don’t wear fake eye-lashes. I will never understand the concept of fake eye-lashes. It is scary to put glue on your eye. I use one foundation for my entire face. I don’t use separate stuff for under my eye, or the sides of my nose.

Being talented in art, thankfully I can make it work. But I cannot understand why girls need so much make-up. Your eye lid is so small, why do you need hundreds of eye shadows that will last you more than your life? The only recent make-up I bought was foundation, because my old foundation finished. I hate spending money on make-up, because it is so freaking expensive. I would much rather spend money on food.

3. Nails

I have never gotten my nails done at a nail salon. I don’t know why girls pay for something that is temporary. I can understand getting a manicure, as it does clean your nails. But paying to have nail polish painted on your nails, why? I do think getting a design or pattern is better for going to the nail salon, but some people pay just to get regular nail polish painted on their nails. Some girls get really ugly nails. I remember in high school this girl got her nails done every week. She paid more than $50 dollars on her nails!! To get her nails painted an ugly brown color, with blue flower patterns.

I was busy begging my mom to buy me cool sneakers. I have never gotten a manicure either. I don’t understand what is the point, when the nails will grow out, the nail polish will chip, and it will have to be re-done, why go through all that, and pay for it? Oh and I do wear nail polish, but just regular nail polish. But again, apparently there is a nail polish you wear before you put on the actual nail polish, and then after you wear the actual nail polish, there is another clear coating to put on top of that. As the saying goes “I ain’t got time for that!”

4. Skirts

I like skirts, but I like pants more. I have more pants than skirts. I could probably count the amount of skirts I own on one hand. I don’t get why some girls wear skirts. It is not that comfortable, especially if you have big thighs like me, and get a good old chaffing experience.

It is irritating to constantly prevent from flashing people in public when wind blows towards you, why bother with that hassle? The fact that sitting is extremely awkward and you have to close your legs. You can’t bend down, otherwise again your underwear will be exposed, or more. Then a lot more attention comes from guys when you wear skirts that are centimeters away from your butt. You “girly girls” get mad when guys check your butt out, and give you creepy stares?? Well, what do you expect? It would be more surprising if a guy did not check a girl out in a super short skirt. Not to mention, it makes a girl look so slutty.

I am all for girl’s independence and wearing whatever you want, but how does a skirt even function when it barely covers you? The whole point of clothes is to cover the body. If you wear a skirt to a club, and get mad when a guy rubs his junk against your butt, it’s not his fault. A club is a place where girls and guys usually try to get lucky, wearing a skirt means you want to get lucky. I like wearing skirts, but I understand the risks I am taking when I wear one. I just wish that if a girl wears a skirt she shouldn’t blame anyone for the attention she gets. Although we live in 21st century, a woman is always going to be attractive to heterosexual men. Men think with their eyes, hence if a pretty girl walks by, they look, they can’t help it. Same as if you wear a skirt with your booty looking mighty fine, a lot of guys will look.

If I see a cake that looks good, I am going to want to eat it. I cannot blame myself for wanting good looking cake. Would you want to eat a sloppy mush of cake that’s falling apart? Or a beautiful clean round cake with flowers and strawberries and whip cream in the shape of hearts? Well okay, then you want both as long as they taste good. Well women are similar to cake. Yes, I compared myself to cake, but I love cake, and that is a compliment. Cake is freaking yummy. My point is a skirt is an adventurous piece of clothing, and when wearing one you have to be adventurous about the attention you’ll get. If you don’t like it, then wear a longer skirt, or pants.

5. Salads

I don’t eat salads. I will never pay the same amount of money for a salad, than for a burger or a real hot meal. Salads are a side dish, to eat with your actual meal. If putting lettuce on a sandwich counts as a salad, well that’s the closest I have ever gotten to eating one. I just don’t understand how someone gets full from a salad, or craves a salad? Maybe I am an unhealthy eater? I love eating vegetables that are cooked, with seasoning, and are temperature-wise hot. To me eating salad is like eating pasta with no tomato sauce, just plain noodles. I can understand there are salads that are really yummy and have tons of ingredients in them, but again, I would still feel that it’s a side dish.

6. Heels

I am more of a sneaker person. I don’t understand what is the point of wearing heels if it hurts to wear them? I have to admit I am guilty for this. But at the same time, I think heels look so freaky. The way feet get morphed in heels scares me. To know that your feet are literally inches off the ground, standing on a 1/4th inch thick heel, that is 1-4 inches long is insane! No wonder it hurts! There have been too many times when I have worn shoes only to come home with blistered feet, which take days to heal.

I have also taken 2 pairs of shoes, one pair for the travel, and the second pair for when I get to the place I need to be, I switch to my high-heel shoes. Then once the party, occasion, or event is over, I switch back to my comfy shoes. This is truly pathetic, but I know it can stop now if girls were more confident wearing the comfy shoes the entire time. I remember one time I went out with a friend to a club, she was leaning on me the entire time. Why? Because her shoes were killing her feet. Yes, it was a nice pair of high-heel shoes, but she could barely walk!

7. Touchy-Feely

I have noticed that most girls are very expressive towards other girls, especially when they like a girl as a friend. There is a lot of physical expression with hugging, holding hands, playing with hair, and being all touchy-feely. I hate that shit so much! I am sorry, but it is so weird. Maybe I have a rock for a heart, or I don’t know what, but it is so awkward when a friend that is a girl rests her head on my shoulder, or holds my hand. I cannot understand why I don’t like this; maybe I am not that girly? Because I notice that guys don’t do this at all, and if they do, they are considered to be gay. Guys freak out when they touch each other accidentally. So, it’s really hard for me to be nice when I am slowly shoving my friends head off my shoulder. I just don’t like it, and I am not trying to be mean.

8. Crying

Most girls I know think its normal for a girl to cry in public. It is totally accepted for girls to cry, and people don’t even think that it’s inappropriate. But somehow I refuse to cry in public. I hate crying in public or anywhere, I only cry alone. I feel that crying is a sign of weakness for me. Yes, girls don’t like feeling weak, or at least I don’t. There are times where I should cry, and I can’t.

I have had to force tears in funerals, which is sad and pathetic, but I just can’t cry in public. I feel disappointed in myself if I ever cry in public, and thankfully the few times I have cried in public, people that saw me cry were sympathetic and understanding. The only people I cried openly in front of were my parents, and usually it was so that I was not yelled at. Basically it was for tactic purposes. At some point my parents did catch on, and knew I was just crying so they would be nicer. But again, I still can’t cry in public.

9. Pink

The color pink is not a bad color, it’s pretty. I don’t mind this color, but I noticed that I don’t own a lot of pink things. The closest I have gotten to pink is magenta. I don’t even have clothes that are pink. I think I might have one shirt that’s pink. I just can’t understand how some girls are obsessed with this color. I have a lot more black and blue shirts, than pink shirts. I remember when I was younger, my parents forced me to paint my room pink, and I wanted it baby blue.

10. Flirting

Apparently flirting is known as complimenting someone and trying to be attractive by giving someone a lot of attention. I thought that was just being nice. I flirt, yet I don’t know that I am flirting. The problem with this is; guys take it as flirting, but really I am being nice. I guess girls have created this stereotype that if you’re nice to a guy, then you must be into him. If you’re not interested, then you should be a total bitch. But I cannot be like that. It sucks because I try really hard to not flirt by being weird. But even that is somehow considered as flirting because I am a girl. But believe it or not, not every girl is flirting just because she is talking to a guy. I actually believe in being friends with guys, not only dating them or being a boyfriend.

11. Cleavage

Showing skin is showing confidence. Showing skin means a girl is proud of her body. But to me showing skin means I am almost naked. I like clothes that cover my body in appealing ways. I feel the need to be liked not by my looks but by my personality. It is really hard for me to wear clothes with cleavage showing, not because I am shy or I am not confident in my body, but because guys behave like dogs every time I do wear revealing clothes. I don’t want that kind of attention. But apparently other girls like that type of attention. I hate that I cannot talk to a guy because he is distracted by my boobs or butt. That is why I try not to wear clothes that will diminish a guy’s IQ, and I can’t get to know the guy. I also believe that if a girl is really pretty, she won’t have to be half naked to prove it.

I know I have worn hoodies and baggy pants, yet sometimes random strangers still approached me. It is not because I am hot, but because I am a girl, that no matter what I wear, some guy will approach me. As long as you’re a girl, a guy will be interested, well most guys. But I struggle because I don’t want to be a tomboy, or seem like I can’t dress well. I know how to dress, I can wear a skirt, just cause I don’t want to, doesn’t make me less of a girl. But unfortunately it seems like unless you’re wearing really short skirts, or your boobs are popping out, you are not girly. It is a real struggle.

12. Talking

I am not much of a talker. I mean I can talk; I have talked a lot many times. But I find myself talking about nerdy things. Most girls talk about celebrities, gossip, and guys. Now, I do talk about guys sometimes, but it’s more about relationships. I don’t gossip because well, I don’t care about other people’s issues. I rather talk about politics, problems occurring in the world, religion, life, goals, and desires. I like talking about things that are more intellectual. I could care less about what happened at a bar, or parties that someone was at. I especially hate it when girls exaggerate and brag about things they do.

13. Name Brands

I don’t understand the concept of paying so much money for a purse that has the letter “C” repeated over and over all over a purse. How is that fashion? I have bought purses for $10 bucks, and they look like they are worth at least $40-$50. I refuse to spend more than $20 for a shirt, and or pants. I am willing to spend money on shoes, because I need good quality shoes. I also am willing to spend money on coats, or jackets. I prefer quality, when it’s worth it. But Abercrombie and Fitch, is not worth it. When the clothing is made for 5 cents in India and Bangladesh, yet they charge $50 for a plaid shirt that has a moose stitched on it, is a bit ridiculous. You’re literally paying someone to advertise for them, by walking around in their brand. Just because something is a name brand doesn’t mean it is nice, or worth buying. I have bought clothes that were not name brand, and were not expensive, but the quality was astonishing.

I mean what is the point of having a purse that is worth more than the stuff inside the purse? Also, just because you pay a lot of money for clothing, it doesn’t mean you will automatically look better. There has been many times when I have been complimented on clothes that I bought for less than $5 dollars. For instance, I bought a shirt for $3 from Wal-Mart; I wore it to a conference, and received so many compliments on it. People thought I bought the shirt for $20-$30, now that is fashion. I would rather wear something that costs less, but looks expensive. I would rather buy electronics, or save it for my rent, than spend it on something that has no function except for branding.

14. Food

I have noticed how I eat a lot. I enjoy eating food, and I don’t get full. It can be annoying because it gets tricky when eating out with skinny or skinnier friends. Now, I know eating less is not a “girly girl” thing, some people get full quicker than others, I totally understand that. But then there are girls who purposely don’t eat a lot because they are afraid they will get fat, or because of the calories. Girls that count calories, and calculate how much food they can eat by using numbers, is really depressing. I am all about being healthy and understanding nutrition. I count calories too sometimes. But a lot of times, I just think, “Oh well”. I remember one time I read an article about the most caloric desserts, and one of them was a Baskin Robbin sundae with 1,030 calories.

The next week, I made it my goal to eat that sundae. I did not care that it was basically all my meals in the entire day. It was totally worth it. I find it strange how someone could not see the value in food, and not see the amazing memories that food can create. I live to eat, not eat to live. Life can be more fulfilling if girls would just enjoy eating a good meal, rather than counting every inch on their bodies. Then they calculate the calories they have to burn to make up for eating something, like sugar in their coffee. It is really and truly pathetic and depressing. I am proud of my gut because it was designed by delicious food like pizza, and lots of ice cream.