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To The Girls He HASN’T Given Herpes To Yet: This Is For You

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Alex Dram
Alex Dram

Hey Ladies,

I do not know any of you personally, but this is the closest that you will ever get to an apology from him. I am sorry he is too sheepish to tell you that he knew he has genital herpes. I am sorry he is too orgasm-focused to be honest with you. I am sorry he continues to live in denial, stringing you along.

You will never get an apology out of him, and I am sorry for that.

The truth being, you may never contract genital herpes from this fellow, either. Despite this, he chooses to put himself first. He is putting your health and mental well-being at risk by not informing you. He is not giving you a choice in your future.  At this point, I doubt he has even been tested. And even if he gets a standard STD test, I doubt he will ask for Herpes IGG (it’s not included).

I never wish herpes, or any STD, upon anyone, but you should ask to see some record. It has taken me a significant amount of time to be herpetic and confident; I know not everyone is as equipped to handle this combination as I am—which is part of the reason I put myself in the public eye.

There are times that I wish I could contact those women whom he is so obviously fooling, but that is not my place.

So to the woman who thinks she’s won him over, the woman who thinks she has him hooked, I hope you think again. I hope you put yourself first in this. I know you’re asking questions, I know you’re thinking deeper than what you see. I know your friends are, too (They friend-requested me on Facebook, after all). I know how you feel towards me. I know, he likes your pictures–the selfies, the friends, the seemingly innocent moments–but that’s his game. You think to yourself, “This time must be different. It’s me.” Well my dear, you and every other girl he’s focused on for six months or less. I know we only know one another through twenty-something, social media stalking, but I will be there for you if things ever do go awry.

This is not a war between women. This is awareness– this is education.

If you ever do contract herpes from him, I pray you are stronger than me. I pray you can walk away, because he knew this time. He knew what he was doing to you. I don’t know if he knew he could infect me, but after what we went through, he’s going to do a number on you, and I hope you step back and realize your worth. No one deserves a long distance lover, especially when you’re five miles down the road.

And you, you’re miles away

Sincerely,
Your fellow Eskimo Sister with HSV2

*This could be applicable to men or women. This is based solely upon my own experience.

**PS I assure you, he’s convincing you this isn’t him. Talk to me; I won’t bite. TC mark

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