The Truth Is, You Will Probably NEVER Be ‘Ready’ To Get Married


My fiancé and I are 4 weeks out from the day of our wedding, and we still come across people respectfully telling us that we shouldn’t get married: that we aren’t “ready.”

Well, folks… the truth is, no one is ever really “ready” to get married.

How in the heck can anyone ever be ready!? Are you ever ready to jump out of your first plane? Or start a big-kid job for the first time? No. You just do it! It’s a completely new experience, but you embrace it head-on. And this is similar to marriage.

It doesn’t matter how many books you read or podcasts you listen to or parents, family members, and friends who fill your head with all different kinds of advice – you will never be fully prepared for everything that comes with a marriage.

One becomes ready to do something by going out and doing it.

This very common belief that you have to have your whole life together before you marry someone is, in my opinion, completely ludicrous. There’s always going to be something wrong, whether it be small or big. There’s always going to be more improvement to be made. There’s always going to be something else to do to make yourself “ready.”

Nothing will truly prepare anyone for marriage more than actually getting married will. It’s the actual experience that is needed, and it is the actual experience that helps you grow and learn.

For goodness’ sake, most parents aren’t even ready to become parents until they actually have a baby! No amount of outside help can ever fully prepare you for a baby, or for marriage, or for ANYTHING for that matter. It truly just takes the experience itself.

If everyone waited until they were ready, they would be waiting for the rest of their lives.

My fiancé and I have no doubt we are going to hit troubled waters. We have no doubt there will be bumps in the road. But we know in our hearts that we were meant to be on this earth together, and waiting until we’re “ready” isn’t going to relinquish us from these inevitable realities.

We are extremely confident in ourselves and our relationship, and we are as ready as we will ever be. So why wait?

I’m tired of people trying to explain to us that we’re doing the wrong thing. That we’re too young. That we’re not ready. We know how much we love each other. We know why we want to spend the rest of our lives together. And we know that we will do anything and everything we can to work to better ourselves and love and serve each other to the best of our abilities. And isn’t that what a marriage is?

We are confident God made us specifically for one another, and we are confident that whatever God has planned for us will become even more clear once we have devoted our lives to one another.

We may not be ready in some people’s eyes, but we are as ready as we will ever be in ours.

“God doesn’t call the qualified; He qualifies the called.” Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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