8 Tinder Profile Tips From A Woman

All you fine gents on Tinder, listen up! According to men, it’s more difficult to swipe a match than it is for women. Fair enough. I’m nearing 1500 matches with ease. I’ve seen my fair share of profiles and, men, you need help. Here are a few profile tips to make me and other women swipe a right.

1. Don’t have another woman in your picture.

Sister, cousin, friend. I don’t care who she may be. If you are looking for women on a dating app, don’t put a woman in your pictures. It doesn’t prove you are good with women, sociable or loving. Women swiping will assume she is an ex-lover. This deserves an immediate left swipe each and every time. The only exception is your mom or grandmother. That’s just adorable.

2 Unless you have a child, don’t add a child.

If you don’t actually have a child of your own, don’t put up pictures of you with your niece, nephew, godchild, cousin, or whatever giggling toddler you babysit. Yes, it does make me say, “Aw, whadda cutie!” But, it doesn’t mean you are necessarily good with kids and it doesn’t necessarily make my biological clock tick any faster for you. All this picture does is make me have to stop and read your bio. Most of the time you had to take the time to write, “That’s my nephew.” Why waste everyone’s time and a good bio line? Yea, so don’t.


I repeat: NO GROUP PHOTOS! Especially when it comes to your first picture. I don’t want to have to guess which is you. Again, I don’t care if you have friends, are social, go to parties. We all do. Well, most of us do. So, don’t make me guess because more than likely, I won’t. Women like men that can stand on his own. None of this hiding behind others, gents or else…LEFT!

4. Selfie the Profile Pic

Whenever I’m on a Tinder binge, it’s a quick decision. Yes or no. Your profile has less than a 5 second decision rate. Selfie with personality should be your first profile picture. I want to see your face. Pictures that promote your character are a huge plus. Don’t bore me.

5. Bios: Keep them short, entertaining and …how tall are you?

Block text is a no. Don’t write a paragraph about who you are and what you do. Blah, blah, blah. Keep it brief, gents. Less is always more. Always. Quotes are acceptable, but honestly you could do better. Use your own words. Cities you’ve lived in, your occupation, something you’re looking for in a woman are all things to mention. The idea is to spark a conversation. Avoid the basic: “I’m an idea person” or “I like to learn new things.” Because, yes. Everyone is and everyone does. Thank you. Any bio that makes me laugh is an automatic swipe to the right. Also, please, add your height. Just please.

6. The Rest of Your Pictures: Hobbies, Adventures, and a Suit.

Ok, after the initial picture. The selfie. I want to see more. If you pass the first test, then I’ll take a look at the rest of your pictures. I’ll speak for most women when I say, we want an adventurous, well-rounded educated man in a suit. Show you can hike a mountain, drink a beer, get a degree and wear a tie. My god, a man in a tie. I just lost my train of thought…Men, just a picture with a tie. Please and thank you.

7. The Conversation: Don’t ask “How are you?”

Like I said before, I have 1500 matches. At this point it’s like a job resume. If you don’t stand out in your conversation starter, I’m not going to respond. Don’t ask me, “How are you doing?” I need something that will catch my eye. Some will ask me more in-depth questions based on my bio. That’s well appreciated. It means you took the time to do your research and that absolutely warrants a response. Others will ask off the wall ‘Would you rather…”-type questions. In those cases, again, I always respond.

8). No Bio is a No Go

Don’t no bio me. You mean I wasted my time to check out your profile further, and you didn’t take the time to type your height? NEXT. Fellas, if you want attention, grab the attention. An empty bio says you aren’t committed to the dating app. You are just browsing for random hook-ups or sexting pals. Character is questionable when you have nothing to say. Anything– height, Instagram name, favorite book title– is better than nothing. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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