Out of self respect, it is in your best interest to let someone know if something they do upsets you. That’s what you need to do in order to protect yourself, and to foster the best type of relationship where both parties display mutual respect for one another. That’s right, you also have the responsibility of respecting the people you care about too. If they give you feedback about you being crappy with example A, or not concerned when it comes to example B, it’s your responsibility to do something to show the person you care about, that you care. It’s as simple as that. Respect in all sorts of relationships is crucial, from family, to friends, to romantic partners.
You need it, and they need it too.
But when you tell someone that something upsets you and they do nothing about it, that’s a red flag. Everyone deserves a second chance to get it right— maybe even a third if you’re understanding. But when someone consistently continues to do something you’ve made clear upsets you, they’re not going to change. You should not have to hold their hand and walk them through baby steps. I’ve learned that after being crushed by this situation, that there ARE people out there who will willingly show you the respect you so very much deserve. Stop settling.
At the end of the day, it is your choice to stay in a relationship where someone disrespects you.
Sometimes people can’t change, or don’t want to. And if that’s the case, then maybe they were never the person, or friend for you to begin with. Relationships are about compromise, not selfishness.
And when everything else is gone, all you’re left with is your self respect, right?