17 Men On What They Thought Was Physically Attractive In Their 20’s Vs. In Their 30’s

One of the biggest worries I had about growing up was the way dating was supposed to change from fun and easy to ??? something harder. But there’s actually a huge relief to dating more mature people, and what I look for has totally changed, I assumed this must be experienced by both genders. Over on r/AskMen guys talked about how what they seek out has changed over time.

14. I’m more insecure now

“Looks -> must be average looking, somewhere around a 5/10. Ideally shorter than me with black hair. Average to slightly overweight.

Personality -> must be a homebody. Doesn’t like parties. Fan of games and ideally a gamer.

When I was younger I didn’t really care, I was just excited to be with any girl. Now I am more insecure and I can’t date someone who I think is out of my league. Additionally, I care very much about if they are a gamer because I enjoy playing games a lot and would hate it if I was in a relationship where my GF didn’t like to play with me.”

15. I care less about looks

“I’ve learned from past relationships that I require someone who is ambitious and leads a full life of their own. I am successful and independent, and it is very important to me that I am able to lead my own life. At the same time I want someone that does not depend on me and my life for their happiness. That way, when we do share our lives with each other it is a happy reward, rather than an obligation.

When I was younger, all I cared about was looks. It is still important that I am attracted to a woman I would share my life with, but I’ve learned that attraction is more than just a physical thing.”

16. I know what I want

“I’m less sympathetic to someone who doesn’t have their shit together. And no games.”

17. I want a good problem solver

“For my taste in women, looks are of middling importance. Personality is really important – not just when things are good, but especially when things are bad.

I usually sum it up as asking “Is she a good problem solver with me?” When the shit hits the fan, will she be standing beside me, shoveling it out? Or is she going to stand there sobbing and add to my burden? Or does she just check out for the day and go shopping with her friends?”

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