Here’s How To REALLY Find Out If You’re Compatible, Based On Your Astrology Birth Chart

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When you read about zodiac signs, you get the basic gist of who’s attracted to who — for instance, Libras and Geminis are generally a wonderful match while Aries and Capricorns tend to make, well, less than ideal pairings. But while your sun sign might show which personalities you get along with best, it might not be the best predictor of who you’ll be romantically compatible with.

That’s where your Venus sign comes in. This aspect of your birth chart focuses less on your broad personality and more on how you show love and how you prefer to receive it. That means how your Venus signs interact might actually matter more than how your sun signs interact. The best part? It’s not hard to figure out — all you need is your (and your partner’s) birthday.

That’s right: it’s time to start Facebook stalking your virtual crush and comparing signs ASAP! You can figure out your Venus signs here.

VENus in Aries

You tend to be a little self-centered in your pursuit of love, and you’re all about the thrill of the chase. In fact, you prefer pursuing people, not the other way around. You’re quick to ignite a flame and just as quick to let it burn out. But hey, people can’t say falling in love with you isn’t fun. You’re passionate, highly sexual, and impulsive, but you also have a bit of a temper when it comes to your partner, even if you’re otherwise a pretty easy-going person. When it comes to matters of the heart, if you want something, you’re going to get it — and, if you have anything to say about it, you’re going to get it immediately. You aren’t always rational about it, but you know better than anyone else that love isn’t always rational. Still, you’re one of the most exciting lovers a person could have.

You’re attracted to people who will indulge in your whims and keep things interesting — because god knows that once you’re bored, you’re gone.

Best Venus matches: Leo, Sagittarius

Worst Venus matches: Cancer, Capricorn

Venus In Taurus

You’re a very physical person, and the key to your heart is sensuality. Still, you’re fairly conventional when it comes to love, and you aren’t likely going to be the person who gets tempted by someone too romantic or idealistic. You take your relationships seriously, and once you’re in love, you’re ready to give your partner the world — quite literally, honestly, as you love showering your significant others with gifts. To you, comfort and stability are much more important than your emotional and spiritual needs, which may make your partner feel a if something is missing from your companionship. After all, it can be quite easy for you to forget the nuances of romantic relationships.

You’re tempted by stable relationships, so it’s no surprise that you tend to gravitate toward stable people. You want someone strong and committed, but also someone who can pay the bills and take care of you financially.

Best Venus matches: Capricorn, Virgo

Worst Venus matches: Leo, Aquarius

Venus in Gemini

Now you’re someone who knows how to have fun in a relationship. Maybe that’s why you’re seen as the “tease” of all the zodiac signs —  you’re a pretty flirtatious person when it comes to love, and commitment isn’t always the first thing on your mind. You’re actually pretty indecisive about picking your partners and tend to run hot and cold on people, which makes you come off as flaky and insubstantial to some. You may go through partners quickly while you’re young, but that doesn’t mean you’re incapable of commitment — in fact, you’re pretty loyal once you actually settle down. But when you do settle down, you’ll definitely find ways to keep the relationship interesting — after all, nothing is ever dull with you.

You need someone who’s not only attractive but intelligent and fun, someone who can be a good friend as well as a lover.

Best Venus matches: Libra, Aquarius

Worst Venus matches: Virgo, Pisces

Venus in Cancer

For you, love and domesticity goes hand-in-hand. You’re not the kind of person who’s looking for a hookup but a life partner that you can explore the ups and downs of life with. You’re nurturing and caring toward your partners, and your intuitiveness might even make them feel as if you can read their minds. However, you tend to side-step confrontations with your lover and would prefer to bury something under the rug than get to the root of a problem if you think it might cause conflict, but the problem is you never forget — you might bottle up all your feelings for years before you finally air your grievances, which could come as a great surprise to your significant other. But all in all, you’re a sweet lover, and once someone falls for you, it’ll be hard from them to walk away.

You’re first and foremost attracted to sincerity and authenticity, someone who is who they say they are and won’t lie to you about anything. You need someone who can express their love and affection in a gentle way.

Best Venus matches: Pisces, Scorpio

Worst Venus matches: Aries, Libra

Venus in Leo

Much like their sun sign counterparts, people with a Leo in Venus is loud and proud about who they choose to love. They’re incredibly demonstrative and affectionate, probably because once they fall for someone, they’re completely head-over-heels. Seriously, you’re obsessive in love, to the point where your relationship might entirely consume you. Because of this, you might hold onto a relationship a little longer than you should, which can lead to a lot of ups and downs. Love with you is certainly dramatic, to say the least. But that’s not to say the tokens of your affection shouldn’t consider themselves lucky — you tend to be completely selfless once you’re in love and want to shower your partner with affection. However, if you feel as if you’re under-appreciated or that your lover doesn’t care for you the same way you care for them, you’re bound to grow bored of the relationship and move on.

You tend to be attracted to charisma and power, as well as people with more flamboyant and larger-than-life personalities.

Best Venus matches: Aries, Sagittarius

Worst Venus matches: Taurus, Scorpio

Venus in Virgo

You aren’t the biggest romantic in the world, that’s for sure. For you, love is practical, and you’re more likely to fall for someone who needs you than anyone else. Little things matter to you, and you’ll probably show your affection by fussing over your partner, noticing the small details about them, and trying to help them out in practical ways. But some people might not interpret these as acts of love, as they aren’t typical romantic gestures, which may lead you to be a little under-appreciated. But hey, on the bright side, you tend to be a communicative partner and won’t likely end a conversation with a “K,” so you score plenty of points in that department. Still, you tend to be reserved and slow to open up, which may come across as unwilling to some. Don’t be surprised if people read your signals all wrong.

You’re attracted to quieter, more timid people who are willing to discuss deep, intellectual topics with you.

Best Venus matches: Pisces, Cancer

Worst Venus matches: Gemini, Sagittarius

Venus in Libra

Relationships are a huge part of your world. Seriously, you’re obsessed with them, and if you’re not in one, you’re always looking for one. You’ll do anything to keep a relationship going, even if it means sacrificing your identity or the things that you love most. Not that it bothers you too much, though — “togetherness” is a huge deal for you, and you actually prefer that your partner is dependent and clingy. Unfortunately, this might lead to you having a lot of expectations in a relationships, and you have a tendency to “keep score” when it comes to you and your partner. If you feel like you’re giving too much of your power away just to keep things even, or if your partner feels like they’re being stifled by your insistence to keep things “fair”, the relationship might crumble altogether.

While you’re attracted to fiery, passionate people, what you need most is someone who is grounded and can keep you in check.

Best Venus matches: Virgo, Taurus

Worst Venus matches: Cancer, Capricorn,

Venus in Scorpio

You’re an intense lover to have, Scorpio. You’re all or nothing in the matters of love, and let’s just say that it can definitely scare people off — but it can also pique their interests. You have a penchant for drama and thrive on passion, but it’s your charisma that really attracts people to you. But you’re more than just your charm — you crave intimacy and are capable of loving deeply and passionately. You’re not afraid of the challenges relationships present, and you’re ready to work as hard as you need to to make something work. In fact, you can grow rather obsessive about love, and you want all of your partner, not just pieces of them. Be careful — you can become quite jealous and insecure if you don’t think you have it, which may make you resort to mind games and power plays that lead to disastrous result.

You’re a rollercoaster of emotions, so it’s no surprise that you’re best suited with people who are strong, stable, and unafraid of commitment.

Best Venus matches: Taurus, Virgo

Worst Venus matches: Leo, Aquarius

Venus in Sagittarius

You’re definitely untraditional when it comes to love. You like to keep things exciting and new-feeling, even if it’s a long-term relationship. You’re easygoing and fun and associate relationships with adventure and growth, not just a partnership. After all, isn’t life about learning? Because of that, you’re quick to leave partners who make you feel caged in or relationships that feel stagnant. After all, if it’s not going to help you grow, then what’s the point? However, you care to be too serious in love and prefer a lighthearted, humorous partner that’ll laugh along with you. As long as you don’t feel trapped, you really don’t mind being in a relationship at all.

You work best with someone who can go along with your last-minute plans and who can be fun, spontaneous, and unrestrained.

Best Venus matches: Aries, Leo

Worst Venus matches: Virgo, Pisces

Venus in Capricorn

You prefer comfort and stability in your relationships, probably because you offer the same to your partners. You are cautious in the matters of love, and you’re never one to jump in quickly. It takes you a while to let yourself go on a romantic level, which can become increasingly frustrating to your partner if they’re the type who’s looking for vulnerability and openness. But once you let your walls down, you’re warm, affectionate and tender, willing to make yourself vulnerable for the one you love. You may not always know the right things to say, but you do know the right things to do, and you’ll show your partners you care more than you’ll tell them. When you’re in it, you’re in it for the long haul.

You’re completely attracted to stability, tradition, and authority, so don’t be surprised if you end up falling for someone with similar values to you. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself unexpectedly attracted to a particularly fiery personality, though — strangely, you’re drawn to them, too.

Best Venus matches: Taurus, Virgo

Worst Venus matches: Aries, Libra

Venus in Aquarius

Romance isn’t everything to you, but when you do finally decide to settle with someone, you look for an intellectual match. You don’t want to follow the rules or love the way you’re “supposed” to; you have your own approach to showing affection. You’re a total free spirit when it comes to matters of the heart, which makes it a little harder for you to fall in love than some other signs. Infatuations are easy, but love? Sometimes you worry you’ll never find it. After all, you can’t deal with clinginess or neediness, which so many people seem to revert to when they get into a relationship with you.

Overall, you’re attracted to people who are intelligent, value and understand your sense of freedom, and who makes it a point to understand your point of view.

Best Venus matches: Cancer, Scorpio
Worst Venus matches: Taurus, Scorpio

Venus in Pisces

You are the literal definition of hopeless romantic. Everything about love is magical to you, and deep down, you believe strongly in miracles, soulmates, and true love. If you had a choice, your whole life would be one giant rom com — and in some ways, I bet it already is. You’re known for your warmth and sensitivity, and while you’re perhaps one of the easiest signs to fall in love with, that doesn’t mean it’s always easy to be in love with — you’re mystical, elusive, and oftentimes hard to pin down. You can be a chameleon in relationships, becoming a completely different person with each new lover, as you tend to become an emotional sponge and shape yourself to people’s needs. You care very deeply for others and may struggle to draw boundaries in a relationship.

It’s no surprise that you’re going to be attracted to someone who’s warm-hearted, spiritual, and wistful.

Best Venus matches: Cancer, Scorpio

Worst Venus matches: Gemini, Sagittarius TC mark 

Callie Byrnes

Callie is a professional Thought Catalog blogger by day and an amateur Tumblr blogger by night.

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