Listening To Your Heart Vs. Listening To Your Mind


Everyone probably has at least one, if not many, relationships they knew they shouldn’t have gotten into it. Your mind is most likely the culprit every time this happens. You analyze a guy you encounter and try to rationalize getting into the relationship for a variety of reasons. You may be bored, have poor options, or recovering from a disastrous relationship, and he just may be the best of the worst.

Your mind could possibly be thinking a million things like, well this could be convenient, he likes me so much, or in my case, he seems all right, I guess this could work. All these things usually pertain to the great personality traits of the guy and ignore how strange or horrible he probably is, causing your brain to temporary silence your heart shouting “Don’t do it!” in the background.

Logic is equally as important as remembering what your first instinct was and listening to what your heart is telling you. Yes, your mind is rational and reasonable, and it has helped you figured out so much in life, like mathematical problems, or how best to strategize other areas of your life. However, when it comes to matters of the heart, isn’t it best to listen to your heart?

When you have gotten into a regrettable, brain-induced relationship, you will quickly see things souring. You will notice an obvious grimace on your face as you reject one of his calls, or when you ignore his text message. You will blow every misstep on his part out of proportion, because inside you know you never should have been with him. Even though you have already declared yourself as part of a committed relationship, in a short while your eyes will start to wander to other men. Soon everything in connection with the relationship will get so tedious and distasteful, that you will just try to avoid it all and escape to your friends.

If you are experiencing these symptoms of an all logic based relationship, it is advisable to be get out of the relationship as soon as possible. You pseudo-significant other, in most cases, won’t realize that you aren’t really into it, so you should just end it before it causes greater heartache for them, or causes you greater break-up guilt.

You should always follow your heart, but also take into account what your brain has to say, to make you the most happy. Time isn’t running out. Be patient and find someone who your heart and mind both agree with. This will save you from spending countless hours from determining if you are in the right relationship or treating the other person as you should. You will know it’s right, when a person satiates both your mind and heart perfectly. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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