Don’t Allow Yourself To Be Convenient For Someone Who Doesn’t Prioritize You

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Don’t allow yourself to fall into an almost relationship, one where your heart is set on someone who is only occasionally set on you. Don’t let them consume your head and your heart. Don’t let thoughts of them keep you up at night when you’re tossing and turning. Don’t let unanswered texts distract you from the life that’s happening in front of you with people who care about you. Don’t let yourself fall so hard for someone who never planned to be there to catch you.

Don’t let yourself be there for someone only in their times of need. Don’t allow yourself to be convenient for someone because you don’t deserve someone who only comes around when they’re lonely – you deserve someone who cherishes every moment with you.

You can like and care about someone with your whole heart but if they only want you when it’s convenient for you then they are not worth your time. You need someone who is going to be there by your side through all the unglamorous, boring, hard, complicated moments in life because there will never be highs without lows.

You need someone who is going to be there when your anxiety is acting up – someone who understands and doesn’t try to belittle it or fix you. You need someone who is going to be there when you’ve had an awful day at work and you just want to cry – someone who comforts you and makes you feel like it’ll be okay. You need someone who is going to be there when you want to go on a midnight adventure and laugh so hard you nearly pee your pants – someone who gets it and laughs just as hard with you.

You need someone who is going to be there through the highs and lows of your life because anything less than that is not someone you should waste any more time on.

You are more than convenient, you are more than a half-hearted love from some guy who can’t prioritize you.

You are not an option. You are not convenient. You are not a placeholder.

You are a wonderful, whole-hearted, full of life woman and you deserve someone who is going to appreciate this about you on top of everything else you offer.

You are not too much or too little, you do not love too hard or feel too much, you do not need to change a single thing about yourself to make someone more attracted to you because you are perfectly enough the way you are.

Your thoughts and emotions matter, they are relevant and anyone who makes you feel like they don’t matter is someone who doesn’t deserve any more of your time.

You can care about someone so much but if they keep you on the back burner and only come around when it’s convenient for them it’s time to let go and move on because holding on to them is holding you back from finding someone who wants to be there through all the highs and lows.

Someone wants to be there to rub your back when you cry, hold your hand when you’re walking down the street, kiss you in public, sing along to the radio with you, wake up next to you every morning and give you every unedited, imperfect part of them. You are someone’s dream and holding on to someone who doesn’t feel that way is only hurting you. 

You need someone who is going to be there for you like you’ve been there for them. You need someone who is going to go out of their way to make you feel special like you’ve done for them. You need someone who can feel as deeply and as passionately as you do.

This person may feel like they’re perfect for you but the person who is actually perfect for you doesn’t make you wait around for days without a text back. Someone who is perfect for you doesn’t only call you when it’s convenient for them. Someone who is perfect for you makes you feel special – not empty and broken and worthless.

You are deserving of a whole-hearted love from someone who makes you a priority, and you will find someone. You will receive the love from someone you keep pouring endlessly into others. You just have to let go of those who never started holding on to you first. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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