You Don’t Need Anyone Who Doesn’t Need You

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You don’t need that guy who you have to triple text to get a response back. You don’t need that girl who strings you along with no intention of ever dating you. You don’t need anyone who doesn’t need you.

The truth is – if someone wants you in their life you will know. There won’t be any games or mixed signals because they will be gung-ho for you and give you their best. But instead of being attracted to the people who are attracted to us we’re always attracted to the people who don’t want us. We’re always attracted to the person who wants someone else.

We get caught up in the idea of them and why they aren’t giving us their complete attention, just like we aren’t giving the person who is interested in us our attention. It’s a brutal cycle but it’s reality.

We spend so much time trying to impress people who literally don’t care about us and it’s exhausting, and it made me realize you don’t need anyone who doesn’t need you.

You don’t need the guy who you have to beg to hang out with you or the girl who ignores you in public. You don’t need to give and give to someone who is only going to use you in the end. You don’t need to change yourself and try to ‘fix’ yourself because the person you like is into someone else.

You are enough just the way you are and you don’t need anyone who doesn’t need you.

Stop trying to compare yourself to other people, stop thinking of yourself as not good enough or unlovable because one insignificant person doesn’t want you back.

Just because one person doesn’t want you back doesn’t mean there aren’t tens or hundreds of people in your life who love you just for being you, even if it’s not in a romantic way. Don’t throw that all away and deem yourself unworthy of love just because one person couldn’t see that.

In all honesty – you can’t force love, you can’t force relationships and you can’t force people to like you. If someone doesn’t appreciate you for who you are then they aren’t the right person for you anyway.

You will find someone who appreciates your laugh, who loves every imperfect part of you, who doesn’t think you’re ‘too much’ or ‘too little’ of anything. You will find someone who truly loves every inch of you and that’s the kind of person you should want – not the person you have to convince to text you back or hang out with you.

Quit wasting your time on that one person who doesn’t care to acknowledge how wonderful you are because they will never do anything for you other than make you dislike yourself, and there is no time for that.

I know your heart might be stuck on them right now but you will move on, you will get over them and you will wonder why you spent all the time trying to convince someone to love you when you could have been loving yourself this whole time. You don’t need their validation or approval because you don’t need someone to approve of you when you are already enough. You don’t need their half-hearted compliments or their misleading words. You don’t need someone who doesn’t need you.

Instead of investing your time into someone who doesn’t care invest it in yourself. Start to love yourself the way you love others and start putting yourself first. You deserve your own love. You deserve to be loved back and this person will never be the one to give you their heart, and that’s fine because you don’t need it.

Never settle for half-hearted love and never need someone who doesn’t need you because you deserve more, you deserve so much more. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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