Losing Him Is Not A Loss

God & Man

I know your heart is breaking right now, his name is buried deep in your mind and you can’t escape your thoughts of him. You feel like he’s consuming you even though he’s gone.

Your heart strings are a mangled mess that you don’t have the strength to untangle yet but sweet girl, losing him is not a loss. It’s hard to accept that right now because it feels like your heart beats for him and only him, but what you can’t see is that it gets better. It will get better.

Things with you and him did not work out for a reason, and as broken as you are right now you will heal. One day you will wake up and he won’t be your first thought. You won’t look for him in public places. You won’t stalk his life on social media. You won’t cry when memories of him cross your mind. You will not feel as though losing him was your greatest loss because it’s not.

You don’t need him to complete you, you don’t need someone who doesn’t want to be there, you don’t need someone who couldn’t fully be there the way you need.

As much as you’re missing him right now, know you don’t need him. Know you’re going to be just fine without him. Know that you are smart and strong and capable of so much, even without him in your life. He did not complete you and he did not make you who you are – you did all of that.

You are broken right now but you won’t stay broken forever because your heart is not made of glass.

You will heal, sweet girl, you really will.

It might feel impossible right now but you will move on. You will look back and learn so much. You will see that losing him wasn’t really a loss after all.

You will learn how to smile again on your own, you will learn it is possible to love someone who is not him, you will learn that you are so much better off without him in your life. But it will take time for you to see those things. It will take time for you to heal and you should take all the time you need.

The pain you’re feeling right now is real, it’s not something you can just sweep up to pretend it isn’t there. The pain and heartache you’re experiencing right now is valid, it’s relevant and you shouldn’t try to rush the healing process. You should take as much time as you need but know that it will keep better, and it will get easier.

You will make it through without him and you will be okay. You are still breathing and your world did not stop.

The pain you’re experiencing right now is making you stronger, it’s helping you heal, it’s going to lead you where you’re supposed to be.

I know your world feels like it’s collapsing down on you and the only person you think can help is long gone, but it will get better. You will realize losing him is not a loss because in this process you will find yourself. You will get stronger. You will learn to love yourself. You will learn what kind of love you deserve. You will realize you deserve someone who doesn’t leave.

Even though it may feel like it right now, losing him is not a loss, sweet girl. You will see in time. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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