Don’t Be The One Who Takes Him Back After He’s Done Messing Up

It's easy to want to give in. It's almost too easy to give in. But you have to know you deserve more than that.

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God & Man
God & Man

He fucked up and destroyed your heart. He left you broken and alone. He ruined your trust and made you feel like a fool. He threw all the love between you out the window and didn’t think twice.

Don’t take him back.

He thought he could hide the truth from you, he thought he could just blame it on being a ‘mistake’ because he didn’t think you’d find out. He thought he could cover it up and hide the truth from you. He knows what he did was wrong and he just wanted to pretend it didn’t happen, but it did. He wanted things to just go back to normal, but they can’t.

Do you understand that you deserve someone so much better than that? Because you do.

Don’t be the one who takes him back when he’s done fucking up. Don’t allow him the privilege to come back into your life and be loved by a good woman. Don’t allow him the opportunity to break your heart all over again because it’s possible to get your heart broke by the same person a hundred times if you allow it.

Don’t take him back after he’s fucked up because he will think it’s okay to do it again, that he can do it all over and you’ll just take him back.

Don’t allow him to treat you like a doormat because you deserve so much more than that. You deserve someone who doesn’t crawl back to you after they’ve fucked up, you deserve someone who loves you enough to not fuck up in the first place. You deserve someone who knows what they have when they have you, not someone who only recognizes it after they lose you.

He messed with your heart, your mind, your emotions. He made you feel confused, lonely and worthless. A man like that is not worth taking back. It will just be the heartache that won’t stop hurting if you do.

You have such a full heart and he took advantage of that because he’s selfish and he’s more concerned with his emotions in the moment that he forgets about yours. You deserve someone who can love you tenderly, someone who can appreciate you every day, no matter how long you’ve been together. You deserve someone who treats you with the love and respect you treat him with.

It’s easy to get lost in the words he tells you when he’s apologizing and begging for you back. It’s easy to want to give in. It’s almost too easy to give in. But you have to know you deserve more than that. You have to know that someone who loves you truly won’t fuck up like that, even if things aren’t the best between you because they want to fix things with you, not throw your relationship away.

Walking away is hard, being done completely is hard because all those moments of strength are often followed by dark moments of weakness, moments of doubt, vulnerability, sadness and feelings you don’t want to cope with. But it’s good to feel, it’s okay to be weak, it’s normal to cry. It will be okay. You have to know it will be okay. You just need to give yourself the time.

Don’t be the one who takes him back after he’s done fucking up. He doesn’t deserve someone like you, sweet girl. Someone will love you right you just need to get through the dark before you can see the light that waits for you ahead. Thought Catalog Logo Mark