The Truth About Why He Won’t Love You Back

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It’s not because you’re too skinny or too fat, it’s not because of your height or what size waist you have. It’s not because you’re not funny or because of how raspy your voice is. It’s nothing with your appearance or your personality. It’s none of those things.

It’s not because of anything you are or aren’t it’s because there’s something wrong with him, not you.

It might be his fear of commitment or because he isn’t’ mature enough to have a relationship. It could be because he is more focused on himself than dating. Or that his career is overtaking his life because he enjoys being a workaholic.

Him not loving you back does not – I repeat – does not have anything to do with who you are as a person.

He doesn’t love you back because he isn’t ready and he can’t give you the love you deserve.

I know that’s hard to hear because you don’t understand how you could give your heart to someone who just doesn’t want it. But he isn’t ready for it. You have so much love in your heart that you want to give and share, so much love that makes your soul ache and your stomach fill with butterflies. You have so much to offer, but you decided to love someone who wasn’t ready to receive your love and give it back.

You are going to make someone so happy, but that someone isn’t him and the worst part is that neither you or I know who that someone is. But you will find him and you will shatter every expectation he ever had in his brain. You will wow him and you will feel like you finally found your other half. And this guy, he will make you realize why it didn’t work out with anyone else, he will make it all make sense.

You will find someone who feels like home, like the other half of your heart and he will drive you to want to be a better person. The two of you will mesh so well and you’ll feel happy.

You’ll feel so happy.

You won’t feel like you had to try to force someone to love you. You won’t feel like you’re begging for his attention or that you are with someone who is only half invested. You deserve more than that, you absolutely deserve someone who can give you back the love you’ve been giving out for so long.

Everyone deserves someone who brightens their days and makes them look forward to tomorrow.

Everyone deserves happiness.

Even though you might be discouraged right now my dear, don’t let your head hang down. Know that is was nothing you did or said, it wasn’t you at all actually, it was him. It was something within him that wouldn’t let him love you or anyone for that matter.

You are bright and beautiful and brilliant, don’t ever forget that and you are enough.

Keep your head held high because you deserve to feel happy and you will, and the best part of it all is you don’t need a guy to feel that way.

You are the light of your own life, let it shine. TC mark

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You look back and you just feel stupid.
You can’t forgive yourself for falling
or believing all the lies.
You reread every text.
You relive every memory.
And it all starts making sense —
he never wanted love.
He only wanted attention.
He only wanted validation.

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