Why Being The Girl That Always Gets Overlooked Isn’t A Bad Thing

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kyle.gothman

I know how it feels to be the girl who gets overlooked. You’re the girl who guys ask if you’ll be his wing man when you go out on the weekend because that’s just the type of girl you are.

You’re the girl who has been single for years and years, but your friend who just got out of a relationship has another boyfriend, already. It’s kind of like she’s Taylor Swift and you’re the no one in the background of all her pictures. People see you, but their focus is all on her.

It sucks and it doesn’t feel fair at all, but the thing with life is that it doesn’t have to be fair and it never will be fair because life doesn’t owe anything to anyone.

You might be the girl who never gets picked, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing.

You’re the girl who doesn’t sit around clinging to her phone waiting for a message that will never show and if it does show it’s usually some lame ass excuse that will just make you mad. You’re the girl who can actually go out and have fun instead of fighting with her boyfriend because he’s not out and he just wants to know what she’s doing and who she’s with and if she’s dancing with anyone and who’s buying her drinks and what time she will be home and a million other fucking questions that prevent anyone from having any fun.

You’re the girl who doesn’t have drama. You’re the girl who doesn’t get her heart broken. You’re the girl who doesn’t spend her night in tears because some dickhead didn’t text her back.

You’re the girl who can go get pizza, take a cab home, change into sweatpants and binge watch Netflix until you pass out.

You don’t have to worry about where you’re going or who you’re going home with. If you don’t feel like going to your friends house after the bar there is no one stopping you from going home. If you want to leave early because you’re not having fun, you can go right ahead and peace out.

You’re the girl who gets to be completely free and do whatever you want because being single doesn’t have to be a bad thing, being single is an incredible thing.

Who cares if you’re the one who never gets picked? If you’re a badass by yourself you don’t want all these grimy boys hanging all over you like laundry on a clothes line, you deserve more than that.

I know being alone sucks sometimes, there is no denying that all of us don’t have our lonely nights and moments of weakness, but there are so many positives about being the girl who guys overlook. It might not seem like it right now, but I promise it isn’t a bad thing.

It doesn’t make you undesirable or forever alone. It’s not your loss either, it’s theirs because you still get to live your life down whatever path you choose. You have all the freedom and the world at your finger tips, so embrace it!

You want someone who will come along and sweep you off your feet. Along the way you will probably fall into a couple wrong arms out of loneliness and hope, but you will learn that they couldn’t give you what you wanted. The right person will come around and then it will all fall into place. But for now enjoy being the girl that gets overlooked because being single doesn’t have to be a good thing and you’ve got the rest of your life to spend with Mr. Right when your paths cross. TC mark

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You look back and you just feel stupid.
You can’t forgive yourself for falling
or believing all the lies.
You reread every text.
You relive every memory.
And it all starts making sense —
he never wanted love.
He only wanted attention.
He only wanted validation.

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