If You Want It To Last, Don’t Treat Your Relationship Like It’s Disposable


He wasn’t able to make me laugh so I never messaged him back.
She wasn’t as cute in person as she was in her pictures so I’m not going to hangout with her again.
He wasn’t as tall as I hoped so it really threw the chemistry off.

We look for the mildest excuses to find what’s wrong with someone. We don’t even give them half a chance and that’s our problem with relationships these days. We find one flaw, big or small, and it immediately triggers something in our head that says, “Nope, not him.”

We are shallow and we suck as humans. And if you don’t want to admit it, I will because I’m definitely not above admitting that I suck.

Here is my advice to you:

If you want your love to last stop treating your relationships like they’re disposable.

Stop doing something you know is pissing your partner off just because you know in time they will get over it because they always do. Don’t repeatedly ignore their request or not listen when they ask you to do something. Stop treating them like they don’t deserve anything. They are your partner, they should be in your life because you want them there and that means you should love them.

Yesterday I thought about all the people who have come into my life, touched my life slightly, left me with a few memories, maybe some pictures for when I don’t recall those memories, and then they went on their own merry way. They came in and they left because they weren’t important enough to stick around and make the cut or maybe because they didn’t like me enough to want to stick around.

So we just stop calling, we let our plans fall through if we even made plans for another time, and we let another relationship turn to dust.

We treat everything and everyone as if they are replaceable. We break our phones? No problem, let’s just get a new one. We lose a friend, no worries we have more.

It’s sad, it’s really truly sad that’s how we have become; so numb to the world and relationships that we treat them like they don’t even matter.

Stop treating your relationships and your love life like everything is disposable because one day you might wake up and realize just how lucky you are to have someone who cares about you so much and who continues to stick around through your bullshit.

Don’t realize it too late. Know what you’ve got when you’ve got it and be thankful for it. Relationships aren’t disposable, so we have to stop treating them like they are.

You wouldn’t throw away your favorite vase because it got a few smudges on it. You’d polish it up and take care of it before putting it back on display for the world to see.

Polish up your relationships and be proud of them.

Start loving the people in your life with your whole heart. Start treating your partner like they are your world because they should be close to it. Start showing affection towards others and stop letting relationships slip through your fingers because you’re ‘too busy’ or have ‘too much going on.’ Those are lame excuses and that’s why our relationships get treated so poorly. We get too caught up in our own lives and what we’re doing we stop to look around and check in on others. Before you know it sometimes the people who you took for granted won’t be there anymore.

Let the mild excuses for why someone shouldn’t be in your life go and accept them for who they are as a person. You don’t have to like everyone, but you should show them respect.

Love the people in your life and let them know how much they mean to you. Stop treating relationships like they’re disposable and start polishing them up and taking care of them like they’re supposed to be taken care of. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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