Ladies, There’s A Difference Between Guys Liking You And Valuing You


There is absolutely a difference between liking someone and valuing them. Sometimes I think we get more concerned with the fact that someone likes us that we forget how important it is to be valued. Being liked is good, but being valued is so much better.

I like my phone, it occupies me when I’m bored, I can use it as a distraction and it normally does what I say, but I wouldn’t say I necessarily value it. I drop it, I break it and as soon as it’s broken I start asking my friends if they have old phones I could replace mine with. It’s just a phone, it’s great when it’s working the way I want it to go, but once it stops and starts having problems I look to replace it or upgrade to something new and better.

That is the difference between liking and valuing, and that difference is major.

Don’t be with someone because they string pretty little words together that make you feel special if their actions don’t match up.

Don’t just stand around on the side waiting for a guy because he tells you he like you, but follows that line with an excuse about how he isn’t ready yet for anything.

Don’t waste precious days of your life trying to capture his attention because honestly, you don’t want to be hung up on a guy who keeps you hanging around because he might like you. You don’t deserve someone who just likes you; you deserve someone who values you.

You deserve someone who knows just how important you are and how much you’re worth. You should be the highlight of someone’s life; someone’s better half and the part of them that makes them want to be better. You should be that person to someone because a person’s values are usually one of the most important things to them.

You deserve to not be taken for granted.

To be valued means that you are appreciated for your role in his life. It means that he respects you and how you feel. It means he doesn’t belittle you, he doesn’t make your accomplishments seem small and he doesn’t kick you to the curb when something better comes along. He truly cares about you because he cares about your values and beliefs.

Your values should be everything to you and more important than a guy liking you.

You can claim to be strong in your values, to have high values, but it’s important to realize the company you keep says a lot about how you value yourself.

By hanging around someone who doesn’t value you, it’s showing others you don’t value yourself as much as you should.

Because if your hanging out with someone who doesn’t value you, it’s changing your values, not theirs.

If you live your life with the values of trust, respect and love, you shouldn’t settle for someone who doesn’t fully invest in you and your relationship. You shouldn’t be with someone who doesn’t fully trust, respect or love you just because you’re scared to let him go, in hopes he might change. All that is doing is compromising your values and internally diminishing your self-worth.

You can’t constantly wonder what you’re doing wrong, why he isn’t as invested in you as you are him when you’ve let your values down in order to let him in. You want to be the change, you hope you can be the change in him, but love is not meant to change a person into who you want them to be. Love can’t change your partner and make them into someone they’re not.

You have to know your value in order to be treated right.

A man can like you, but that doesn’t mean he will show you the respect you need and deserve. Sometimes you just need to start from where you are with some self-love and care, you need to invest in yourself with a little maintenance, then you will start to see your value build back up again over time. Then you will see how important you are.

Know your worth and practice your values before someone else can come in and start compromising them. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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