If He Tries To Change You, Please Don’t Date Him

Don’t date the guy who makes you feel like you aren’t good enough, that you’re not deserving of love, that you’re not smart, or that you’re not independent. Don’t date someone who tries to hold you back from your true potential because they are scared you will realize just how great you are.

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Charlie Foster

Don’t date the guy who thinks he is better than everyone else, because he will always be that way and that isn’t someone you want to be associated with.

Don’t date the guy who thinks that he can come through and tear up everything in his path without any repercussions because he will soon enough tear through every relationship he built.

Don’t date the guy who constantly acts like he doesn’t give a damn about anything, because in reality he probably won’t give a damn about you either.

Don’t date the guy who is a player, because no matter how hard you try and how hard you want to change him, you can’t.

Don’t date the guy who acts uninterested. Who keeps you hanging around slightly, who only gives you an indication every now and then that he is interested in you because to him you will always just be an after thought. He will only end up breaking your heart.

Don’t date the guy who only texts you at 2:30AM. Even though you might desire him and wait up for his text message, he won’t be loyal. He only wants you when he’s horny or lonely and you deserve more than that.

Of all else, don’t date the guy who wants to change you.

Don’t date the guy who buys you fancy items because he wants you too look and dress a certain way. Don’t date the guy who tells you to put on make up before you leave the house because he is embarrassed to be seen with you otherwise. Don’t date the guy who tries you change you into his form of “perfect” whatever that is.

Don’t date someone who doesn’t love you for you because they are holding you back from being with someone who will truly love the way you laugh and the way you cry. They will be happy to be by you on your worst days, as well as your best. They will love you for you, because you are incredible just the way you are and no one should try to make you feel like you’re not amazing.

Don’t date the guy who makes you feel like you aren’t good enough, that you’re not deserving of love, that you’re not smart, or that you’re not independent. Don’t date someone who tries to hold you back from your true potential because they are scared you will realize just how great you are.

Don’t date someone who tries to belittle you and makes you feel guilty for the things you like and you want to do. Don’t date someone who tells you what to say and what not to say, what to post and what not to post. Don’t date someone who tells you who you can and cannot talk to.

Don’t date someone who tries to restrict you from your life.

Don’t date someone who tries to control you in any aspect of life. You are human and you are allowed to make your own decision and be your own person. You are allowed to do what makes you happy. You are allowed to laugh and cry and have bad days. You are allowed to eat what you want and dress how you please. You are allowed everything and anything because the world is at your fingertips and no one should be trying to take that from you.

Whatever you do, please do not date someone who tries to change you because you are already great the way you are and you can’t fix something that isn’t broken. Thought Catalog Logo Mark