If you find yourself constantly making excuses like these, get out! Now! The sooner you stop making excuses, start being honest with yourself, and face reality, the sooner you’ll move forward and be well on your way to finding the right relationship.
1. Don’t ever settle.
You’ve been in countless relationships and quite frankly, you’re tired of it, so you decide to just stay with the one you’re in. But it doesn’t matter how many people you’ve been with, because it could take a million more before you find the right person. You deserve the best. You deserve someone who loves you for who you are, who praises you on your best days, and makes you smile on your worst. You’re beautiful inside and out and you need to be with someone who feels lucky to have you.
2. Don’t stay just because you don’t want to be alone.
This is the worst possible thing you can do. If you are settling for an unhealthy relationship just to have someone to talk to every day, you’re missing out on finding “the one.” You don’t need a boyfriend or a girlfriend to keep you company; that’s what friends are for. Go out to bars, join a book club, take cooking classes. Go out and have fun. You’d be surprised how many new friends you could meet. And when you think about it, what’s so terrible about spending some quality time with probably the only person in the world who you actually can agree with 100 percent of the time? Plus, the better you get to know yourself, the easier it’ll be for you to figure out what you want and need in a relationship.
3. Don’t stay just because you feel “comfortable.”
You’ve been in a relationship for several years and it’s just what you’re “used to,” but “familiar” doesn’t necessarily mean “good.” Don’t be with someone just because it’s “convenient.” Many people that are in long-term relationships feel that they have spent so much time and energy into getting to know that person that they don’t feel like doing it all over again with someone else. This isn’t a good reason to stay with someone and besides, getting to know someone new can be fun!
4. Some people never change.
You’ve stayed with the same person for so long, hoping they would eventually change into the person you want them to be — it’s not happening. So instead of waiting on someone to change, why not spend that time trying to find someone who’s already exactly the type of person you want?
5. Abuse of all forms should never be tolerated.
Many people don’t realize that verbal attack is also considered abuse, and most of the time (and as I’ve already mentioned) those people will never change. Real love isn’t degrading or hurtful. Your boyfriend or girlfriend should comfort you and make you smile, not pierce your heart. Find someone who will shower you with love, affection and kind words. And if someone ever lays a finger on you, get out immediately! There is absolutely no reason in the world as to why a man or a woman should ever hit you.
6. Don’t make excuses for your significant other.
If you find yourself defending their heartless actions, you should probably stop and admit that the way they treat you is wrong. Some people lie or defend their partner to their family and friends because they don’t want them to sound as bad as they are. If you start making excuses like, “Oh he didn’t mean it, he just had a long day,” or “He is just stressed out from work, I know he really loves me,” then you should realize that you’re in a bad relationship and get out ASAP.
7. You have to love yourself and be content with your life before you can love someone else.
It’s best to work out personal issues, like insecurities or fear of commitment, before getting into a relationship. Before settling down, you must first be at peace with your life, your personality and yourself. After all, how are you supposed to make someone else happy if you can’t even make yourself happy?
In short: Get Mr./Mrs. Wrong out of your life. Don’t give up, and more importantly, don’t feel let down. It’s a big world we live in and the right person is out there for you. Just make sure not to miss out on “the one” because you were with “the wrong one.”