You Deserve A Love You Don’t Have To Question

Gabi E. Mulder
Gabi E. Mulder

We all talk about what we deserve like it’s this concrete thing. If I could live the rest of my life without ever hearing, “We accept the love we think we deserve,” it wouldn’t be soon enough. Not that I fully disagree. But it starts to get tiring, this idea of deserving.

Who am I to say what anyone else deserves? Especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

But what I do know is love shouldn’t make you question yourself. And you deserve to know that. You deserve a chance to find that out.

A love that’s secure doesn’t mean it’s boring. Everyone is obsessed with spontaneity (because it’s great, sure), but being comfortable with someone is just as powerful. I’d take knowing someone is going to be there, that they’re going to continuously show up, over wild adventure any day.

Sometimes, we love people who make us insecure. We’re hungry for their validation and we’ll put our own needs on hold. We never fully settle in because, down deep, we know love should be easier than this.

When it’s right, you won’t be swimming in doubts.

You won’t be consumed with what-ifs when you try to fall asleep at night. You won’t worry about expiration dates or if you should plan trips together. Everything won’t feel so unclear.

You owe it to yourself to have the kind of love that sticks around. Something mutual, something that feels safe and taken care of. The kind of feeling that only increases with strength the longer you’re together.

Find a love that makes you a better person. Someone who encourages you to grow, but also loves who you are right now.

You deserve a love that won’t keep you up worrying. You deserve a love that feels like home. A love that is certain. A love that makes sense. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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