This Is Why You Need To Stop Worrying About Being Single In Your 20s

Gonzalo Díaz Fornaro
Gonzalo Díaz Fornaro

Let’s take five minutes and look at the positives. That person who let you go did you a favor. I know it sounds like a crazy thought but it’s true. Right now, you feel like you’re never going to love again because you know what love feels like and that was it. Love only comes once in your life. Love only comes to those who deserve.

Bullshit.

Total and utter bullshit. We get hurt in this life multiple times by multiple people. Sometimes by friends, lovers, even family. But life doesn’t just stop because of this. Does it momentarily feel like the world is caving in? Yes. It totally does. I know because I’ve been there too. But I’m never going to give up on love even though right now I can tell you it feels like I’m never going to do it again. Four years later actually and I’m still trying to figure out if it’ll show up on my doorstep again.

But while love is taking it’s time to get to you, think about the amazing things you can do as a single person right now. You don’t owe anybody anything. Do you want to stay out all night and not have to check in? Do you want to sleep with the hot stranger across the bar? Do you want to travel the world and not have to cater to someone else’s travel itinerary? Right now is the time to do it.

You will never be as a free as you are right now.

Someday soon you’re going to have so many responsibilities you won’t know what to do with them. You’ll feel overwhelmed and wish for the day when the only person you had to worry about making a decision for was you.

Yes sometimes it gets lonely. Sometimes I want to feel the sparks and excitement that come from being in love but I also know that I’m not capable of that. It’s OK to be completely selfish and find yourself. It’s OK to want to freely date multiple people at the same time. It’s OK to pack a weekender and just leave for as long as you want.

I used to think 25 was the year I was going to get my shit together. I was going to settle down and maybe have a long term relationship with someone stable. Someone who has their shit together as well. But life doesn’t work that way. Age doesn’t define when you should or shouldn’t do things. Age also doesn’t define maturity. Get married and have a family when you want too.

It’s always going to be your choice.

When you start feeling a victim of your circumstances is when you’ve failed yourself. You are not weak. You are not wrong. You are where you are supposed to be right now. And if you’re not happy with something? Change it.

Whether you’re single or not, you do not need to settle for anything. You are smart. You are courageous. You can do whatever you set your mind too. You have one life to live so why waste it feeling like you’re only half alive?

Love will find you when it’s supposed to, if it hasn’t already.

Our society makes it seem like the only thing in life to live for is another person. That’s not true. Some of us are meant to find the love of our lives and be completely, stupidly happy with them till the end of our days. But some of us are meant for something else.

Humans are inherently different with separate paths. If you stay true to yours and follow it, then you are completely doing what you should be. Everything else will fall into place. TC mark

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  • http://jaycolby.wordpress.com Jay Colby

    Great post very well said I look forward to reading more from you in the future !

  • http://sheespeaks.wordpress.com Javonne Crumby

    “Our society makes it seem like the only thing to live for is someone else”. Wow! So true! Great post. I needed this!

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  • http://theentertainmentgirl.wordpress.com nicoleobrien28

    I really like the end paragraph when you say, “Humans are inherently different with separate paths.” This spoke to me, it’s a great little quote to think about when one is feeling down on themselves, or comparing themselves to others.

  • Jessica

    I adore this article thank you

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    thank you for this <3

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