I am her. I am your classic Midwest gal with a strong heart and more than loving spirit who falls for the douchebags; the guys who live for the chase; the guys who just don’t care.
I knew it then, and I know it now.
But over the past few years, there’s one thing that’s changed. I’m not afraid to feel confident in believing I deserve more. I’ve realized so many things, in part from being played one too many times, but also from learning to just love being on my own. So what’s changed?
I don’t put up with being another option. Ever. I’ll be their friend and I’ll be there for them if they let me be, but I won’t waste my time on the one who tries to play me.
It took quite some time to get to a place where it’s a one and done. One too many chances and they still can’t get it? Easy, no brainer. He’s just not worth it.
So, this one is for the girls. This one is for those who don’t believe their own worth. This one’s for those who just need to hear it.
Don’t put your life on hold for him.
Don’t wait for him to change. For him to treat you better. For him to hurt you first.
Don’t wait for him to make up his mind; don’t wait for him to choose you. People mature at different paces, especially men. Don’t wait for him to find answers when you already have yours.
Don’t push your friends and family to the side for someone who doesn’t embrace or accept everyone you love; everyone who is most important to you.
Don’t stop believing in a world you love to live for the guy who doesn’t put in the effort to be a part of it.
Don’t change your looks, your passions, your dreams, your personality, for the guy who doesn’t already appreciate everything that makes you who you are.
Don’t make excuses for his behavior. Don’t put up with sorry after sorry. You know your worth, even if it takes some convincing to realize it. So don’t settle for the guy who continues to play you.
Don’t wait for him to let you down. Don’t wait for him to apologize when he’s been given one too many chances. Don’t wait for the guy who you already know doesn’t deserve it.
Don’t wait for him to love you for you truly understand what it’s like to feel loved, appreciated, desired. Don’t wait for him to love you for you to understand how to love yourself.
Don’t give him the power to control your emotions.
Don’t be afraid to be real with him. Don’t be afraid to ask the difficult questions. Don’t be afraid to show him who you really are.
Don’t give up because he ghosted you. Don’t blame yourself when he doesn’t know what he wants. Don’t let it slide when he doesn’t give 100%.
Don’t text him when he doesn’t respond; don’t sit there and wait for him to respond. Live your life. Be with family. Be with friends. Invest your time and attention in people who don’t let you down.
Don’t question your worth for the guy who doesn’t make you feel worthy of being loved. You know that you deserve better, and you tell yourself you do. But I’m telling you right here and now; shooting it straight. Because whether it’s been two days, two months, or two years, you may still be sitting there telling yourself you deserve better, yet you’re still questioning your worth. Girl, if that’s the case then he isn’t worth it. End it. Free yourself from the worry and doubt. Allow yourself to be with someone who wants every part of you, because they genuinely love, desire, and cherish every part of you.
You deserve better. You know you do. Take a deep breath; take a leap of faith. Trust yourself; trust your heart. Let go of the one who is keeping you waiting for a life that is passing you by.
Start living your life. Your best life. And soon enough, when the stars align in Gods timing, someone who is deserving of your love will be ready for you.