Ae Padilla

I let men treat me like their guy friend and not their girlfriend. I never asked for flowers because that’s not what the ‘cool girl’ does.

The basis of a good relationship is sex, but the basis of a real relationship is understanding that you made a decision to truly be completely present with one person.

Before I had thoughts about what my wedding dress would look like I had thoughts about what my first book cover would look like.

We still like the idea of dates but we don’t like the word, and because we don’t like it everyone out there is getting really damn confused as to what dates are.

Now you know the place you are in. You know that a marriage between the two of you would not have worked out. Hell, even a relationship right now would not work out. And admitting that is the hardest thing you have to do, because it means betraying your feelings and betraying all the years you spent convincing yourself that if anyone deserved the happy ending it was the two of you.

We’re just starting the best part of our lives. So why the hell are we doing this?

You have to be the one to have it all together. You have to be the person people gravitate towards to when they want to have a good time.

I refuse to date anyone I don’t find immediately attractive. I know that right off the bat that sounds incredibly shallow. And that many will say people are more than the looks they were given, which they have no control over.