5 Major Signs Your Boyfriend Is Insecure

William Stitt

Dating an insecure guy can be frustrating, but understand their insecurity comes from a place of pain and should be approached with empathy.

Not saying you should play therapist, but rather offer them a place to get help. As these guys are not bad or pathetic people. They just have yet to figure out their place in the world.

1. He’s Overly Sensitive To Criticism

We get it. No one likes to be criticized. But mentioning the slightest flaw to an insecure person (regardless how mild or genuinely constructive the advice could be) and they’ll take it as a direct attack on their character.

2. He Partakes In Playing Mind Games

Consumed with doubts and suspicion. The insecure is fueled by low self-esteem. Thriving on the prospect of bringing up old ex’s or the fact that you’re talking to other guys.
It’s because deep down he believes you’re too good for him, and that one day you’ll leave him for a superior partner and live a truly happy life.

3. He Grew Up In A Broken Home

Studies show that kids who grow up in broken homes are five times as likely to suffer from a mental illness.
Varying from schizophrenia to BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) with anxiety ranking amongst the top illnesses to rise from a broken home.

Broken homes tend to be the foundation that teaches insecure men that relationships are chaotic, confusing, and painful. When is actuality, relationships are supposed to be great liberators by providing comfort, ease, and reliability.

4. He Has No Friends Of His Own

The insecure tends to have no friends. And if he does have friends, they’re probably not close, because he fears people seeing him for who he truly is.

5. He Always Acts Like A Complete Jerk

Everyone acts like a jerk from time to time. But with the insecure, it comes from a place of self-loathing.
One doesn’t have to be doing anything wrong for an insecure person to act like a complete jerk. With their self-esteem already in the pits, they don’t mind dragging others down with them as a temporary way of garnering relief. Insecure people love feeling better than other people, as it makes them temporarily forget their own problems. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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