Aries

(March 21st to April 19th)

You’ll ruin your love life by simply getting in your own way. You won’t have any trouble meeting anyone you really like – it’s that as soon as you start feeling close to them, you’ll scare them off because of your own fears of commitment. You’ll let your selfishness and your impulsivity get the best of you and will subconsciously seek out situations or issues that will let you self-sabotage your relationship or almost-relationship.

Taurus

(April 20th to May 21st)

You’ll ruin your love life by finding problems where there are none. You’ll convince yourself that your partner is cheating on you or that they don’t love you as much as you love them, because you’re not used to this experience of actually feeling secure and happy with someone and you don’t know how to handle it.

Gemini

(May 22nd to June 21st)

You’ll ruin your love life by constantly going back and forth about what you want. On the one hand, you really want a deep, wholehearted, and sincere relationship with a person you really want to commit to. But you’ll convince yourself that you also need to keep living your social, lively, and exciting current lifestyle and will think that for some reason you can’t have both – even though the only reason you can’t have both is because of your own arbitrary proclamation.

Cancer

(June 22nd to July 22nd)

You’ll ruin your love life by letting yourself be a doormat. You will confuse your sense of empathy and compassion as being the same thing as letting potential significant others walk all over you and take you for granted, instead of demanding that you deserve better.

Leo

(July 23rd to August 22nd)

You’ll ruin your love life by letting your pride and your stubbornness get the best of you. Regardless of your big, generous heart, you’ll still have trouble with practicing compromise in your relationships and will continue trying to control everything – even though that has never worked for you.

Virgo

(August 23rd to September 22nd)

You’ll ruin your love life because in order to feel in control or ‘ahead of the problem’ that you are somehow certain already exists in your relationship, you will convince yourself that this relationship and this person is going to break your heart, and by obsessively thinking about this and nothing else, you will become your own self-fulfilling prophecy.

Libra

(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You’ll ruin your love life by trying to please everybody and by shying away from important conversations. You don’t like upsetting anybody and you don’t like uncomfortable or vulnerable topics related to emotions, and these two things combined will mean you’ll have a very hard time finding love.

Scorpio

(October 23rd to November 22nd)

You’ll ruin your love life by letting yourself get jealous and insecure over things you have no reason to get jealous and insecure about. Whether it’s someone you’ve only had one date with so far or a person you’d really like to be exclusive with, you’ll keep looking for reasons to get upset, angry, or self-righteous, even when there are no reasons.

Sagittarius

(November 23rd to December 21st)

You’ll ruin your love life by forcing yourself to be happy, upbeat, and strong all the time, even when you need time to be sad or upset or some other ‘not ideal’ emotion. You will get lost in your role as the ‘fun optimistic one’ and won’t let anyone close enough to see you in the moments when you really need a shoulder to lean on or a heart to open up to.

Capricorn

(December 22nd to January 20th)

You’ll ruin your love life by treating the whole thing like it’s a formula that needs to be meticulously solved, instead of looking at love as an unpredictable experience and learning to love it because of that reason.

Aquarius

(January 21st to February 18th)

You’ll ruin your love life by looking only for reasons to distrust people, close them off, or freeze them out (convincing yourself that this is the safest thing for your heart), instead of being willing to take risks with your heart, knowing that the payoff can be incredible.

Pisces

(February 19th to March 20th)

You’ll ruin your love life by expecting the perfect relationship to simply fall into your lap – even though there is no such thing as the perfect relationship and no such thing as a relationship falling into your lap with a perfect storybook ending.