1. You let yourself feel.

As an emotionally wealthy person, you know that your emotions are central to who you are. You fully acknowledge that you might feel crazy-happy one second, then down in the dumps the next, but you don’t mask or shut those feelings off. Instead, you embrace them. You cry. You laugh. You tell people you love them. You get angry. You don’t try to pretend you’re not feeling anything, or lie about what’s on your mind. You feel, fully and openly.

2. You listen to both your heart and head.

As an emotionally wealthy person, you know that your heart and head are interconnected. You listen to your heart when it comes to love or raw emotion, but you also know when your brain needs to take a turn and guide you with smarts instead of naiveté. You have a strong balance between these two parts of you, and you let both sides control your decisions equally.

3. You are confident.

You are secure in yourself and in your emotions. You don’t let yourself be swayed in the moment, but you also let your feelings guide you at times. You place value in your emotional worth and your sense of accomplishment, and you ultimately find confidence and fulfillment within yourself.

4. You are open and honest.

You value authenticity—in yourself and in others. You are the type of person who is very real about your emotions and you expect the same in return. You like when people talk to you about what they think or feel; this is central to your personal relationships.

5. You communicate well.

Communication is everything to you. It is of utmost importance for you to speak your mind, to know what your partner/friends/family members are thinking and feeling, and for you to reach common ground and understanding in your relationships. Because you are an emotionally wealthy person, you are very open in how you talk to, and engage with, others around you.

6. You express yourself.

This can be through painting, drawing, writing, music, talking…some form of communication or art form that allows you to really be yourself. This is important to you, and is a big part of your everyday life.

7. You don’t compromise your feelings to satisfy someone else’s desires.

As an emotionally wealthy person, you are aware of your needs and sensitivities. You are willing to compromise, but not for something that changes who you are or affects you in a negative way. Because you’re in-tune with your emotions, you know who you are and what you value, and when something isn’t in line with those parts of your being, you are confident in saying no and walking away.

8. You have boundaries.

You will not be used or taken advantage of for your emotional side—that’s your golden rule. Sure, you live emotionally, caring for others very deeply, but when it comes to setting boundaries, you are comfortable guarding yourself when you reach a certain point. Even though you are a very open and loving person, you still put yourself first sometimes.

9. You value time.

You don’t waste your time doing things or being with people who don’t motivate you or build you into a better person. You value your time, so you always invest your emotion into what you do, and you only pursue things that help you grow.

10. You are resilient.

You have gone through a lot, but through every trial, you have found strength within yourself. You allow yourself to both feel and heal, and this has helped you to overcome everything you have faced with your head high.

11. You generate positivity.

As an emotionally wealthy person, you know that you are in control of your own happiness. You find happiness in poor circumstances, in dark days, and in ordinary moments, and you bring this light to the people around you. Your emotional side has helped you to be less fearful and negative, and more motivated and determined to pursue what brings you up rather than down. You know that happiness is not given, but self-created.