Date Someone Who’s Looking For Quality

Date someone who is looking for more than looks. Date someone who wants to know more about you as a person, as a human being, someone who wants to know your story, someone who is interested in deep conversations because there are so many people out there who will pretend to be all those things for a few dates before their true intentions come to light, because deep inside, they don’t care about your story, they’re only interested in theirs. They’re only interested in what they want now, they only want quantity.

Date someone who is not afraid of minor challenges. Someone who doesn’t run away even if they have other options. Someone who doesn’t keep you at the bottom of their list because of something you said or something you did. Date someone who wants you enough to try a little harder, someone who communicates instead of dodging the issue, someone who chooses to talk to you and understand your differences instead of giving up because it’s easier and because someone else might embody their idea of perfect.

Date someone who thinks you’re their idea of perfect with imperfections. Someone who sees your heart and how much it’s been through, someone who is also bruised but still believes in love. Someone who has been guarded but was waiting for someone like you to break down their walls. Date someone who wants to be patient with you. Someone who stays when you expect them to leave. Someone who doesn’t lead you on because they were genuine about you from the moment they saw you. Someone who doesn’t confuse you because they’re sure about you. 

Date someone who’s looking for quality because that’s the only way they’ll appreciate you, that’s the only way they’ll understand what you truly have to offer.

Anyone else will only like you under certain conditions; like when you’re looking your best, or when you make a certain amount of money or when you dress in a certain way or speak in a certain manner. They’ll make you feel like you’re always lacking something or competing with all their admirers.

Date someone who’s looking for quality because they’ll always look for the things that other people don’t see in you, the things that matter and your inner beauty. Date someone who makes you feel beautiful when everyone else makes you feel invisible.

Rania Naim is a poet and author of the new book All The Words I Should Have Said, available here.