How To Tell If An INFP Likes You (As Told By 22 INFPS)

1. “I generally don’t openly tell someone that I like them. I text them a lot, laugh at what they say a lot, Facebook stalk the crap out of them and just hope they eventually see me and fall in love with me.”

2. “When I am interested in someone, I am very good at hiding it as I am bashful about them finding out. Instead, I make it my goal to become their friend and try to make them laugh, smile and see me as someone they trust and love on a deeper level before ever revealing my romantic feelings. In many cases, this has led to wonderful friendships even if we never ended up together as a couple.”

3. “When I’m into someone I always remain true to myself. I try and make jokes and ask questions to the person. I also try and act all distant and mysterious. I’m never the clingy type. And if I suspect they’re into me as well, I usually make a move.”

4. “I become kind of formal in my delivery of everything. I call the by their full name. I use less slang. I try to seem impressive.”

5. “I go out of my way to communicate. I find you on social media, text you, find you at gatherings and try to start a conversation. Small talk is one of my ultimate enemies, so I ask questions to get to know the real you. Or if I’m too shy, I just stare at you like a creeper and hope you notice me.”

6. “I cannot stop hugging the guy I like, to the point it gets a little embarrassing. I try to look my best when I’m with him. I compliment him so much because there is so much to compliment and I want him to know how amazing he is! I’ll answer his texts immediately, I’m not interested in playing the ‘I’m super chill‘ game. I’ll make sure he feels valued for as long as I can. I will always be extra special with him, even if I love my friends to death, I go beyond when I like a guy. But I will always respect his space and his needs.”

7. “I find things that remind me of them and give them as presents to the person I like, especially books.”

8. “I’m rather shy, so what I think is flirting my friends tell me isn’t! I try to sit near then at events and get the chance to spark conversation, make a lot of eye contact, really show I’m listening to them. I’ll also like a lot of their posts online. Once in a while I’ll be bold enough to message them about something–I’m one bashful INFP!”

9. “I might ‘coincidentally’ show up to a place they are, and then speak to them with a special conspiratorial twinkle in my eye that they may or may not notice.”

10. “A ton of sarcasm, countless puns, and more teasing than you can poke a stick at. But for me to be interested in the first place, you’ll have done some seemingly insignificant thing (that you won’t remember) revealing a hidden gem in you most people will not see. From there, I’ll subtly start introducing purpose-driven questions or topics in general conversation (group and individual) to see who you really are deep down. Questions that reveal your heart, personality, journey, and integrity in everyday life without me specifically alluding to any of it. I’ll be bringing forth your true character before you’re aware of any agenda. By that time, if I like what I see, I’ll know you well enough to gift my time, thoughts, effort and money in ways that have personal meaning and significance to you. This could be anything. It’s different for every person. But rest assured, I’ll be showing you love in the ways you understand, not in the ways I understand. And you’ll get the message very quickly.”

11. “When I like someone I shoot them cute glances every now and then or lean my head on their shoulder. Basically anything subtle that will also make me seem a bit playful.”

12. “If I like someone I invite them to events I am interested in and try to engage them in conversations by finding out their interests.”

13. “It’s hard for someone to tell when I like them, because usually I try to treat them the same way I would treat anyone else. BUT, it undoubtedly comes through when I: find ways to bring them up in conversation, share my honest thoughts with them when I might usually shut down, seek them out in my free time rather than spend it alone (seriously, because I need my alone time but I’d rather spend time with you,) and laugh at literally everything they say.”

14. “For me, it’s all about the eye contact. I usually try my best to hide my feelings unless I’m certain the person is interested too. I cannot help but to stare dreamily at the person I like, and anyone can probably see the sparkles in my eyes the way I look at the person. And I blurt out stupid words sometimes and become extra clumsy in front of that person then feel incredibly red and embarrassed afterwards.”

15. “I’ll stand or sit near you more often, just to be closer. I’ll laugh at comments said under your breath, because I was listening intently. If I make you a mix or playlist, it’s too late. I’ve mentally picked out a color scheme and witty demotivational posters that I think you’d like.”

16. “When I like someone, I don’t let them know. I expect them to feel the connection as I do and I seek to start an increasing ballet of small signals that will eventually peak in a romantic movie-like kiss as we have both waited for. Needless to be said, none of my relationships started in that way (and none of them lasted, it’s a sign).”

17. “When I like someone I spend more time with them, talking with them a lot, getting to know them on a super deep level. Pretty much my focus changes to them.”

18. “When I like someone, I make longer eye contact; I smile, laugh at their jokes, tease them, find reasons to ‘happen to’ bump into them; also find reasons to ‘happen to’ need to text them, etc.”

19. “Unless I’m 100% sure I won’t be turned down, I do nothing. If I think they like me too I will probably be friendly and chatty but want them to make the first move!”

20. “I post a song on Facebook not directed to anyone in particular or give a painting an indirect title.”

21. “I show someone I like them by initiating conversation, smiling, flirty jokes, lengthy text messages… ways I’m now realising might be terribly too subtle!”

22. “When I like someone I avoid them… but steal glances at them whenever I get the chance. If they actually come over to talk to me, I get very flustered which makes me scared that they’ll find out I like them. So I usually do my best to end the conversation ASAP, and if there is more than one person in the conversation, I’ll just flat out ignore my crush and focus on the other people. I don’t know why but my brain seems to think it’s better to come off as cold than to allow someone to know my weakness – that I actually like them. Also, in true INFP fashion, I usually proceed to write a blog post about my pathetic excuse for flirting and make up the excuse that it didn’t work out because it wasn’t meant to be.”

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