When You’re Tired Of Being The One Who Cares More, Read This

Rising author, Sophie Beatrice, writes about how hard it hurts when our relationships feel one-sided. For more relateable poetry, advice columns, and more, check out her Facebook page and debut book This Is How It Feels To Be Seen.

It feels exhausting to always be the one who loves. Who seems to care and love more. To be the person who gives and gives — one more chance, one more time, again and again. Even when there are few reasons to do so, or when everything speaks against it.

It feels hard to be the one who texts first and makes plans once again. To be the one who makes the effort and invests because the relationship is genuinely valuable to you.

It hurts to feel like no one cares or checks in on you, and what you give is never reciprocated. And you begin to ask yourself if your standards are too high, or if you’re being selfish.

You question whether the disappointment and resentment are just another expression of your own too-strong importance. But really, in your understanding, you’re not asking for much — when all you wish for is the same energy.

For someone to reach out to you. For even just a little effort from the other side. For it to feel like the relationship also has at least some meaning to them.

And so, you wait to see if this time they will text or call you.

But they don’t — as always.