15 Men Talk About Rebounds After A Long-Term Relationship

1. “I made a profile on one of those free online dating sites (it rhymes with Rokay Stupid). I basically only put pictures in the profile and didn’t really waste my time filling in all that ‘About Me’ crap. I got a lot of messages regardless, must be my charming good looks. Those girls were extremely easy to get with. We’d meet for ‘drinks’ and I’d get more than a beer. I had more than one rebound, I had quite a few. It was fun, I mean the sex, and it definitely kept my mind off of my ex.” —Alex, 24

2. “She dumped me. She was the first girl I ever fell in love with. My friends tried to bring me out and get me ‘laid,’ but the last thing I wanted was to be around a woman. Any woman reminded me of her, and if she didn’t remind me of her she made me think of her. I decided it was best to just have some me time, so I went to my usual spot by myself and sat at the bar alone. I vented to the bartender (who knows me pretty well there) and he said he’d buy my drinks for the night. I guess I took advantage of that and had one too many, because all I remember was he took me back to his place, and tried to kiss me, no lie! I told him it was a GIRL who dumped me, and he said he knew. I’m all for open sexuality, but when it comes to myself I am only into the V, not the P. My rebound was almost a dude, but hey I give him props for trying.” —Drew, 26

3. “I hate even calling my rebound a ‘rebound.’ She was seriously a great girl. Complete sweetheart. She was the total package. Gorgeous, funny, witty, intelligent, passionate, I could go on, but you get the idea. I would’ve loved to love her, but I couldn’t. I wasn’t ready, not after my last relationship. It sucks how timing screws everything up. If I would’ve met her before that long-term relationship, I’d probably still be with her. She was awesome.” —Nathan, 25

4. “Rebound sex is fucking great. It’s like everything you’re ex wasn’t in the best way possible. Damn, I love me a good rebound.” —Austin, 23

5. “I like to think of rebounds as your physical therapist after a terrible injury. They get you back to normal, and you’re all fucked up, but like they try, and they’re doing it for you because they want you to get better, but when you’re better you just get on the field and play again. Yes, I just used a sports metaphor, but rebound is technically a sports term anyway.” —Marcus, 27

6. “I’m the type of guy who loves. I’m always in a relationship, and when I’m not in a relationship I’m trying to get into one. I don’t like ‘hooking up,’ so I don’t generally have ‘rebounds.’ I just have one relationship after another. Hopefully one of these days one of them will stick around.” —Vince, 24

7. “In my opinion, a rebound is someone you should never have to talk to again. You meet them, you do the deed, and that’s it. I was in a relationship for 4 years, we ended it, and about two weeks later I went to NYC for the weekend to visit some buddies. I met a very attractive young woman, let her stay in my hotel room, and that was that. I never saw or spoke to her again. I’m pretty sure she was completely fine with this arrangement too because we didn’t even exchange numbers. That’s a perfect rebound. No strings, no commitments, no feelings, just sex.” —Kevin, 25

8. “My rebounds are usually 4s or 5s and my girlfriends are always 8s or 9s. I’m always wasted when I rebound so that probably has something to do with it.” —Cam, 25

9. “I didn’t have a rebound after my long-term breakup until probably 7 months later. I didn’t even want to think about women, let alone have sex with them.” —Al, 28

10. “I didn’t really see her as a ‘rebound.’ She was just a girl I was getting to know after my previous 3 year relationship. I didn’t go into it with any bad intentions. I really did like her, but I think she was freaked out by the fact that I had just gotten out of a serious relationship. She kept asking if I still loved her, and I didn’t really know how to answer that, and I guess that’s what scared her.” —Bryan, 26

11. “How many rebounds can you have? Like after the first girl you have sex with (after your relationship) is it still a rebound? I don’t really understand the whole concept of rebounds. You have relationships, they end, and then you move on, eventually to someone else. Rebounds just mean it didn’t last long, the relationship, not the sex.” —Cory, 24

12. “My rebound after my long-term relationship actually gave me some clarity. She gave me a woman’s point of view on why the relationship ended, and it helped me to not hate my ex so much. I think rebounds can really help after a bad breakup, and not just in a sexual way.” —Dennis, 28

13. “Rebounds suck. Guys just have them because they’re hurt and horny. Any rebound I’ve had has been the most depressing thing ever. The whole time I’m thinking about my ex, and even when it’s done, I’m still horny, so none of my problems are solved.” —Jack, 25

14. “It doesn’t stop being a rebound until you’re over your ex. Until then, you’ll just keep seeing the people you have sex with as a tool to help you move on. That’s why I think you shouldn’t rebound at all. You should wait til you know you’re over it. It’s not fair to the people you’re seeing (and most likely sleeping with) if you’re still hung up on that long-term relationship.” —Kenneth, 27

15. “I rebounded within 3 weeks of breaking up with my serious girlfriend. She found out and went batshit crazy on me. I wasn’t doing it to rub it in her face, I didn’t even want her to ever find out. I just came across a really pretty girl, who also happened to be really nice, and things happened. We weren’t still together so I didn’t see what the big deal was. Women make this huge deal of how long it takes men to ‘move on.’ I wasn’t moving on I was just living my life.” —Pat, 26