Stumble upon a piece of clothing from them. Maybe it’s a shirt. Boxers. That oversized sweatshirt with holes in the sleeves.
Their handwriting. When they remember things about you that you only mentioned once. Their unique scent.
We chase it from the first moment a teacher decides to assign our intellect a grade. We take standardized tests. Our value becomes reduced to what we’ve achieved, what we’ve gained, what we can stack on top of a mantel.
“This is not like sex with my high school boyfriend. Or college boyfriend. It’s actually kind of hot?”
As much as we convince ourselves that we are open minded, a lot of people approach relationships from a fixed state of thinking that is fueled by pre-existing notions and ideas.
The best words can free you from an emotional cage brought on by heartbreak. The best writing can take the place of the apology you needed, but never got.
1. There’s no performance pressure.
You will be fixated on misery and grief internally. Not always but in fleeting moments, it always comes back. In your mind you will always resort to whatever pained you.
But when I’m asleep, I’m afraid of having someone next to me.
After my last breakup, I decided to get a dog instead of going on the rebound. Best. Decision. Ever.