Skinny Girls Have Insecurities Too

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Skinny girls are not always happy with the way they look. They might hate how small their ass looks in their jeans or how lanky they look in pictures or how they don’t have any curves to fill out their dresses. They might not see skinny as the ideal. They might wish they looked different, they might hate what they see when they stare into the mirror, they might want to gain weight to put some meat on their bones the way their grandmothers have been telling them to do since they were teenagers. 

Just because a girl is skinny doesn’t mean she considers herself perfect. It doesn’t mean she thinks she is better than you. It doesn’t mean she is happy with herself.

There are skinny girls who were born with fast metabolisms. Skinny girls who spend hours at the gym in order to keep themselves looking thin. There are skinny girls with eating disorders. Skinny girls who eat whatever the hell they want and somehow still stay thin.

You cannot judge someone based on how heavy they are — or by how skinny they are. They are skinny girls with body issues. Skinny girls who hate when people shame them for their weight by saying real women have curves or telling them to go eat a hamburger. 

Sure, there are skinny girls who love their bodies. Who are comfortable with their own reflection. But there are also skinny girls who feel like they are ugly and unlovable. 

Even if a girl is happy with the size of her waistline, there are other pieces that make up a person. Weight is not everything. She might be unhappy with the way her nose looks and the size of her chest. Or she might be unhappy with her personality, with who she is as a person, with how quiet and shy she is around strangers.

There are people who claim skinny girls have nothing to complain about since thin privilege exists but everyone is entitled to their insecurities.

Think about Madison on This Is Us. Kate started out hating her because she was the only skinny woman in the Overeaters Anonymous group and looked like she did not belong there, but they ended up becoming close friends. They ended up having more in common than they imagined.

Every girl should be allowed to express her insecurities, even if society tells her she has nothing to be insecure about. Every girl should be allowed to work on herself.

It doesn’t matter whether other people look at her and think she is attractive. Their opinions mean nothing in the end. She isn’t seeing herself through their eyes. She is seeing through her own vision.

That is why the only thing that matters is how she feels about herself when she looks in the mirror. All that matters is whether she practices self-love. TC mark

Juliet Lanka

Hater of love. Lover of horror.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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