The worst relationship of your life will be with someone self-obsessed. Someone who only cares about themselves. Someone who never pays enough attention to you.
They are never going to pick up on your hints about what you want for your birthday. They are never going to remember your favorite songs or television shows. They are never going to have engaging conversations with you, because that would require actually hearing your side.
Never settle for someone who scrolls through their phone during ‘romantic’ dates instead of looking you in the eyes and listening to what you have to say.
Never settle for someone who nods their head when you are telling stories about your day but is secretly zoning out.
Never settle for someone who spends the entire conversation waiting for their turn to speak.
Never settle for someone who makes you repeat yourself three times before they absorb what you have been saying.
You deserve someone who is on the edge of their seat whenever you have something exciting to say. Someone who asks about your day the second you walk through the door. Someone who remembers the little things about you that you never even noticed.
The worst relationship of your life will be with someone who doesn’t listen because they don’t think what you are saying is important. Because the only problems that matter to them are their own problems. Because they don’t understand the give-and-take required in a healthy, loving relationship.
You should not feel like you are talking to a brick wall. You should not feel like your person only cares about your body, but not about your mind. You should not feel like you are being a bother every time you open your mouth to speak.
The right person for you will want to hear all your stories. Not just the ones that impact them in some way. They will also want to hear about that bitch that cut you off on the highway and how your favorite contestant on Big Brother got voted off in the last episode.
Even if they don’t really know anything about the topic you’re discussing, they will still be interested, because they will see how passionately you are speaking and will want to learn what made you that way. They will care about what you care about. They will treat your words with respect.
Not only will they listen to what you have to say, but they will remember it. They will remember your boss’ name. Remember your birthday. Remember the shoes you looked at for a little too long in the mall and clearly want to own.
The right person for you would rather talk to you about absolutely nothing than talk to anyone else about the most exciting adventures in the world. They would never grow bored of your stories.
The worst relationship of your life will be with someone who never listens — but the best relationship of your life will be with someone who really hears you.