Stop Letting Them Take Advantage Of You Because You’re Afraid They Will Leave

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Stop giving them everything you have when they give you nothing in return. Stop letting them take advantage of your kindness. Stop expecting the minimum amount from them when you deserve so much more than that.

They might ignore your texts when you call them out on their bullshit. They might stop speaking to you when you ask them questions about where the relationship is headed. They might leave when you raise your expectations for them. But that shouldn’t dissuade you from speaking your mind, from asking for more than you have been receiving.

You can’t let your fear of them walking away convince you to keep putting up with their crap.

You deserve someone who answers your texts without three days passing. Someone who stays the night to cuddle. Someone who shows up when they promised they would instead of canceling after you’re already in your car and driving to meet them.

Stop letting others take advantage of you because you have strong feelings for them and couldn’t imagine dealing with the aftermath of them leaving. 

If they walk away after you call them out for lying to you, or after you ask for a real title instead of being called just a friend, or after you tell them you’re upset about how they have been treating you lately, then you are better off without them.

If they don’t want to hear about your feelings, then they don’t want to date you. 

You don’t want someone in your world who wishes you would stop talking. Who wishes you would keep your emotions to yourself. Who wishes you would pretend to be heartless instead of being your authentic self.

When you raise your standards, there is always a risk of them leaving. There is a chance they will search for someone new, because they only wanted you around when you were easy. Easy to disappoint, easy to ignore, easy to hurt.

If they leave after you start practicing self-love, you know where they stand. You know they aren’t interested in a serious relationship where you are both treated equally. They are only interested in one-sided love. In being spoiled by someone they are neglecting.

Stop letting them take advantage of your kindness, because no amount of compliments or texts or sex is going to convince them to change. The only way to get different results is to take a different approach.

You need to expect more from the people you let into your life, because once you rearrange your requirements, they will either walk away or they will stick around. They will either decide you aren’t worth the trouble of changing or they will fight for you. 

Resist the urge to settle, because if someone belongs inside of your world, they won’t walk away when you raise your standards. They will rise to meet those standards. They will apologize for not treating you better from the start. They will hope you will forgive them and will take measures to make that happen.

They will do whatever it takes to earn your love. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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