8 Reasons You Should Try Dating A Single Dad

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Is it time to stop dating degenerates, and start dating single dads? It’s possible that dating a single father could solve all of your dating problems, but you first need to figure out if a father would be your type of man or not.

Typically, having a kid changes a man for the better because he becomes more mature, more selfless, more responsible and starts to get his priorities straight. If you’re a single woman looking for love, and you’re excluding single fathers from your search, you could be making a big mistake.

If you meet a great guy and you find out he has a kid, that’s a good thing, not a bad thing. If you’re sick of dating inconsistent, unreliable game-players, you might love dating a single dad. Certain women aren’t mature enough to date a single father, or they’re simply not cut out for it. Meanwhile, after being exhausted by the low-caliber men in today’s dating world, many of us have realized the benefits of dating a man with real-world responsibilities.

Here are 8 signs you’re someone who should date a single dad:

1. If You’re Sick of Commitment-Phobes

A single dad knows how to commit to something. He has made a commitment to his kid, and he isn’t afraid of commitment anymore. He’s at the point in his life where the idea of settling down doesn’t scare him, because he realized he had to settle down the moment he knew he was going to be a father. That means he’s more likely to be looking for something serious. Plus, he has too much on his plate to add the headache of juggling women – and he doesn’t have time to troll bars for women. The likelihood that a single dad is a player is quite slim, so if you’re sick of dating players who can’t fathom the idea of commitment, look no further than your local daycare or neighborhood park.

A young, handsome single father I recently met told me that becoming a single dad taught him how important it is to have a partner in life – someone in your corner. When he has so much on his plate already, and the dependence of a child is added, he’ll need a trustworthy support system. This means that he’ll naturally start to notice the lack of supportive and loyal people in his life, and he’ll recognize the value of finding a loyal and committed partner.

2. If You Like Taking it Slow

More and more women are starting to realize how beneficial it is to move slowly, and not be rushed to make decisions about a man. Moving too fast can guarantee a failed relationship, which is why taking your time is so important.

Single dads tend to take it slow because they need to make sure you’re compatible before they introduce you to their kid. They also already have a lot on their plate, so they aren’t desperate to move things along too quickly.

3. If You Love the Date-Night-In

Some women love date nights out on the town, and other women prefer the relaxed vibe of the date-night-in. If you genuinely enjoy just staying in for date nights, you’ll love dating single dads.

The thing is, babysitters can be expensive and hard to find on a Saturday night, so staying in for date night will likely be the norm when you date a dad. However, a date-night-in can still be sexy, fun and romantic. You can even have some fun planning unique date nights at home.

For example, after his kid goes to sleep, you can set up a romantic date night at home. Light some candles, put on a sexy playlist, and set up your own wine and cheese night. Plan ahead by picking up a nice bottle of Cabernet, and check out these perfect wine and cheese pairings for your quiet evening. The ambiance of romance can easily be created at home, and it’s much more relaxing than being out on a Saturday night.

4. If You’re Over the Drinking and Partying Scene

If you love the date-night-in, then you probably are over the bar scene. You’re in luck since a dad is likely no longer into partying, drinking all the time, or getting out of control. Once you become a dad, you tend to reign it in and enjoy a low-key lifestyle. Once a man becomes a dad, he becomes a real man. He’s well-adjusted and has a good head on his shoulders. He no longer sees much appeal in a crazy night out.

5. If Maturity is Important To You

If you’re at a point in your life where dating someone mature is important to you, know that single fathers harness that maturity. Even if you’re dating a young dad, he’ll still be mature, because having a kid forces you to grow up. Being a father-figure requires maturity, and single dads have to be accountable. Single dads have responsibilities, and that’s a sign that they’ll be able to handle a relationship maturely.

6. If You’re Sick of Unpredictable, Inconsistent and Unreliable Men

There’s nothing worse than dating a man who is all over the map. A man without responsibilities tying him down is much more likely to be unpredictable, flaky and unreliable. However, a single dad will naturally have a much more predictable schedule, and he’ll also be used to being relied upon.

Dating a single dad means you’re likely dating someone reliable, who doesn’t pull disappearing acts or randomly end up in Vegas with the boys when you thought the two of you had plans. Unattached men are often completely inconsistent and unpredictable. Players keep you guessing and wondering all of the time. A single father, however, isn’t about that life. It’s a breath of fresh air to date someone consistent who can actually be counted on. If he’s the type of man his kid can count on, then he’s the type of man you’ll be able to count on.

7. If You’re Attracted to a Dominant Man Who Takes The Lead

If you’re attracted to dominant men who take the lead, it could be a sure sign you should date a single dad. Single dads have learned leadership qualities since they have a child who is dependent on them. When he was younger, he might have been more indecisive and passive. Now, as a parent, he’s become someone who takes more initiative, takes the lead, and makes decisions. This is an incredibly sexy quality in a man. A single dad has to adjust to being a little bit bossier and more dominant because that’s part of parenting. Dominance is another sexy quality in a man, which is why you might be attracted to a single dad.

8. When You Just Want to Meet Someone with Good, Old-Fashioned Values

If you’re looking for a man with good, old-fashioned values, look for a single dad. They have learned what’s really important in life, they know how to truly love someone, and they have their priorities straight. They want to be providers, and they’ve adjusted to the role of a provider in being a parent. They also understand the value of a quiet night at home with loved ones, and they know that love and family are the most important things in life. Single dads don’t prioritize casino nights with the boys, video games or bar-hopping. Their values have become more old-fashioned and more meaningful, and that makes them keepers. TC mark

Erica Gordon

Erica is a writer, blogger and dating expert from Vancouver, BC. She runs The Babe Report, a free advice column for millennials. Get her book, Aren’t You Glad You Read This?, a how-to guide for singles, here!

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