If You Want To Leave, Then Fucking Leave

A girl who wants to leave
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Stop letting yourself get walked over. Stop dealing with all of the bullshit thrown at you because you feel like you don’t have any choice except to deal with it. You always have a choice.

If your parents or your boyfriend or your boss is treating you like shit, speak up to them. Tell them what has been on your mind. You don’t have to stoop to their level and treat them with disrespect. Calmly explain why you have been feeling how you’ve been feeling and give them a reason to behave differently.

You can still act mature, still take the high road, while asking for what you deserve. You can stand up for yourself without knocking anyone else down in the process.

If something in your world is no longer bringing you fulfillment, then you are allowed to leave. If your boyfriend talks down to you, cheats on you, and abuses you, leave the relationship. If your boss refuses to give you a raise or their respect, leave the job (but only after you have found a replacement that is able to pay the bills). If the atmosphere inside of your house has become toxic, then pack your bags and leave the place (but only after you find another apartment).

Don’t make any rash decisions without thinking them through beforehand. You don’t want to end up unemployed and homeless. But if you have been feeling this way for a while, if you have been thinking through the consequences, then do what you have to do. Even if it’s scary. Even if it means you are going to end up living in a cramped space or making less money or getting shit from your aunts on the holidays when they hear you’re single again.

If you want to leave, then fucking leave.

Decide whether the risk is worth the reward. Decide whether you would rather stay stuck in the place where you are right now or make a better life for yourself.

Moving up in the world is not easy. It takes work. It takes courage. You have to go through stress to come out successful.

You don’t want to wake up miserable every single day. You don’t want to be the person who always complains about the same things over and over again, but never does anything to change their situation.

You have the power to alter your circumstances. Maybe you can’t quit your job or move out of your house or leave your toxic relationship right this second, but you can prepare yourself for it. You can start searching for other jobs. You can start saving up money for a new place. You can start gathering the courage to say goodbye to the person you thought you were going to spend forever alongside.

You might feel like you are stuck in your situation right now, but you have power. You can control the direction your future takes. You can end up happier than you ever imagined. You just have to put in the fucking work. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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